(Closed) FMIL showed me her dress for the wedding. It's WHITE!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Can color be added to it, such as a jacket, sashes, etc.?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My Mother-In-Law wore a cream-colored dress (granted, not totally white.) I was a little worried about it, but to tell the truth, didn’t think twice about it on the day-of. While I think it was rude of her to ignore your explicit wishes (I stated no such wishes to my MIL), I also think that if she won’t change her mind or, as PP suggested, add some color, it might just be something you need to let go. It’s not nearly as bad as it seems like it would be 🙂

ETA: It would still totally piss me off, but for your own sanity, you might just have to move past it.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My mother in law wore a white dress to my wedding, she tried to convince me it was light blue, LOL no.  My dress was also ivory.  I know it seems like a big deal or a “power play” but trust me, no one is going to confuse her for the bride and she is just going to look foolish.  I had no less than 8 people whisper to me at my wedding how ridiculous she looked.  So really, joke is on her.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Happy7:  Well, it sounds like you and your fiancee spoke to her about she’s set on doing it anyway. Mind as well either get use to her way of things, especially if she’s going to be around much after you guys get married. 

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly that is the last thing you will be thinking of on your wedding day. No one will mistake her for the bride trust me on that. Is it rude she plans on wearing white sure is, but I honestly would let it go. Let her look foolish… 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

What the HELL this is just like Monster in Law. Man, go buy her that movie STAT and drop it off!

Awful, just awful.

 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What is she thinking? Seriously. As PP said, she’s just going to look silly. I feel kind of embarrassed for her. There’s nothing really you can do at this point, unfortunately, except let it go. She really is going to look strange…

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Um… I wouldn’t let it go, I would try to get Fiance to talk to her about it again.  You may not think twice about it on the day of but what about the pictures.  How do you explain that in the future?  O she was just too stubborn to change a dress color?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

All eyes will be on you not her and she’ll look silly anyway

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

I think you just have to let it go but seriously a butterfly? Wtf?!

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow I would be upset too =(  If she is not budging on this one, you’ll have to accept it as much as it sucks.  You don’t want to start off your marriage on the wrong foot with your Future Mother-In-Law.  It’s probably not the hill you want to die on. 

Everyone will know you’re the bride and won’t really pay attention to her.  That’s a great idea about getting her a colorful shawl!  And maybe a brooch?  Or a colorful bolero ?  At least a bolero would be worn the whole day.

My mom showed me an ivory dress she liked (I’m wearing ivory). I told her light pink is so flattering on her and the coral is one of the wedding colors, both of which are completely true.  Thankfully she changed her mind.

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