- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
My fiancee and I got engaged about 6 months ago and we have been telling both our families we were planning the wedding in our hometown which is about 2 hours from both families. Originally we were saying we’d like to get married next spring, but after looking around at venues we found a great deal for this September. As soon as we found out we both told our families that we might do September and my mom asked my extended family to make sure no one had plans and my fiancee asked his mother to do the same. Both families said the date was not a problem and so we’ve moved foward with the plans and my mom has been doing a ton of work with save-the-dates and hotel/transportation since its only 5 months away.
So my fiancee’s parents came to visit last week and I was asking their input on the rehersal dinner and the wedding menu and everything seemed fine, then yesterday all of a sudden my fiancee’s mother is saying that the date doesn’t work and there’s all sorts of problems with our plans and people can’t atted from his side of the family. She admitted she never asked them before and refuses to ask them now. Then she told my fiancee she is not going to come if we do it on that date because it will look bad if I have more family then he does at the wedding even though my family is much larger than his in the first place and that would be the case no matter when the wedding is.
After many phone calls we think we’ve found out from his sister that his mother is in a tight financial spot right now and wants us to push it back so she has more time to save up so she can contribute to the wedding. She said she started saving when we got engaged and when we first asked about September she said it would be harder but do-able. We never asked her to contribute and are actually willing to help her with her travel expenses since she’ll have to stay over, but she is just so worried about how it’ll look if she doesn’t pay for the rehersal dinner and get us a big gift ect.. Of course she won’t even be honest and tell us this she just keeps insisting its for all sorts of other reasons. I understand she wants to contribute, but if she can’t right now should I really have to move my whole wedding??