Post # 1
Do I need to invite my Future Mother-In-Law to my bridal shower? We have a really bad relationship and she has made it known that I am not worthy of marrying her son and has tried to hook him up with her friends daughter (WHILE WE WERE TOGETHER!!!). Last time we met, she yelled at me saying that I was disrespectful and showed that I did not love her all because we do not have the money to invite all of the friends she requested for the reception and had to ask her to choose who was most important to her. I really don’t want her energy there draining my shower. She is a total energy vampire! What should I do?
Post # 2
I would probably invite her, because it might add more fuel to the fire if you don’t. Will you be inviting other people from your FI’s family? If you are, I really think she should be invited.
Even if you do invite her, if she really doesn’t like you, maybe she won’t come? Then that’s on her at least, and you can’t get blamed for anything.
Post # 3
She should be invited to a shower where family is invited. If she shows up, she’s going to have to come bearing a gift, or risk being seen as a COMPLETE jerk, so there’s some silver lining…maybe?
I feel for you though. my Future Mother-In-Law is also a handful.
Post # 4
Who needs this in their life? Not you!
This drama llama sounds like she’d accept the invite just to make a fuss. If she’s going to make a fuss anyway I’d just as soon enjoy the shindig without her there.
Post # 5
MY Future Mother-In-Law is a handful as well. I would invite her though just to keep the peace and hopefully she will be civil since the day is about you and not her. Maybe you fiance can say somethig to her? Mine has had to do that when we went dress shopping for my wedding gown.
Post # 6
I agree. I don’t want to make things worse but the thought of her makes my blood boil. Future Sister-In-Law was going to do a shower for my future in-laws, but I haven’t heard anything more about it in months so I guess that’s not happening. Future Mother-In-Law and my mom have a bad relationship too so I was hoping to keep it separate for my moms sanity as well. Future Mother-In-Law has said some really cruel things to my mom about me and our family.
Post # 7
I agree. Knowing her, I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t. Trying to aviod more conflict but I know my family and I would enjoy the day much more without her there. I’m leaning towards doing what is going to make me happy and not having her there. Her presence is draining and also makes my blood boil
Post # 8
Good point! She is known for not giving me gifts for Christmas or birthdays even when I give her one! She looked like a complete jerk this Christmas when she gave FBIL’s girlfriend’s DOG a gift and skipped over me….. She hates animals too…
Post # 9
Yikes! Honestly I would not want to invite her, you do not need that kind of energy at your shower. For the sake of keeping peace I guess maybe sending her an invitation but not telling her about it personally…maybe she will just choose not to attend haha. Good luck bee!
Post # 10
In light of the fact that she said cruel things to your mom, I would not invite her. But I would tell her why. Etiquette be damned at that point. No one messes with my mama!
Post # 11
Normally I’d say yes, but in this situation….no.
Post # 12
mail an invite, don’t talk to her about it. don’t encourage her to go. you did your part.
Post # 13
Why on earth would you invite her? She had made it abundantly clear she doesn’t support your relationship, why would you invite her to an event you just know she’s going to act nasty during? Make sure your Fiance is on board with skipping the invite and then just don’t send her one. She’s an adult and most adults understand that there are consequences for their actions.