(Closed) FMIL to bridal shower?

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I would probably invite her, because it might add more fuel to the fire if you don’t.  Will you be inviting other people from your FI’s family?  If you are, I really think she should be invited.

Even if you do invite her, if she really doesn’t like you, maybe she won’t come?  Then that’s on her at least, and you can’t get blamed for anything.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

She should be invited to a shower where family is invited. If she shows up, she’s going to have to come bearing a gift, or risk being seen as a COMPLETE jerk, so there’s some silver lining…maybe? 

I feel for you though. my Future Mother-In-Law is also a handful. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Who needs this in their life? Not you! 

This drama llama sounds like she’d accept the invite just to make a fuss. If she’s going to make a fuss anyway I’d just as soon enjoy the shindig without her there. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

MY Future Mother-In-Law is a handful as well.  I would invite her though just to keep the peace and hopefully she will be civil since the day is about you and not her.  Maybe you fiance can say somethig to her? Mine has had to do that when we went dress shopping for my wedding gown.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Yikes! Honestly I would not want to invite her, you do not need that kind of energy at your shower. For the sake of keeping peace I guess maybe sending her an invitation but not telling her about it personally…maybe she will just choose not to attend haha. Good luck bee!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

In light of the fact that she said cruel things to your mom, I would not invite her. But I would tell her why. Etiquette be damned at that point. No one messes with my mama! 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Normally I’d say yes, but in this situation….no.

Post # 12
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Busy bee

mail an invite, don’t talk to her about it. don’t encourage her to go. you did your part. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Why on earth would you invite her? She had made it abundantly clear she doesn’t support your relationship, why would you invite her to an event you just know she’s going to act nasty during? Make sure your Fiance is on board with skipping the invite and then just don’t send her one. She’s an adult and most adults understand that there are consequences for their actions. 

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