(Closed) FMIL troubles times 3

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Damn and I thought mine was the worst.  I have no advice for you except maybe have a glass of wine before dealing with them?!  Good luck!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

The only way I know how to deal with these things is to just say you will think about it and then never bring the subject up again! lol

Avoidance is not a good way of dealing with things long term, but when you have three people demanding different things there is almost no way out other than to say you will consider it but not go any further than there (but come up with a good reason to not do it just in case they bring it back up!). I have even just completely removed things from my wedding that were causing issues (removed all cousins from both sides of family as there was too much argument over who could/could not come, removed flower girl as too many people wanted their kid to be it etc)

All I can say is good luck! I dont envy you 😐

Post # 7
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Don’t change things to make anyone happy (apart from FI). It’s your wedding and do it your way! Good luck 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@marinewifetobe:  Are you me? This is my exact situation except my SO’s parents were never married, and 2 of his grandmas helped take care of him when he was very little, so they also act like they are his mother. I love them all but yikes! I think the only thing you can really do is focus on what you and your Fiance want, and not worry too much. Oh, and try to keep them all equally in (or out of) the loop so they don’t feel like you’re playing favorites. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your wedding, your day…your MEMORIES!  YOU have to live with the pictures and memories of your special day for the rest of your lives, not them, no matter WHO is paying.  They had/will have their time..this is yours

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