(Closed) FMIL Vent.

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

As horrible as this sounds, this kind of sounds like my mother… Has your Fiance put his foot down? Talked to her? If not, he definitely needs to.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so sorry that you have to deal with this. And when you’re expecting, too! Stay strong and keep communicating with your Fiance. You deserve to have good people in your life, not somebody like this. Sending you my best wishes and sympathy. 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I can totally sympathise. My Future Mother-In-Law isn’t quite THAT bad but she’s (and FFIL) certainly a nasty piece of work. If she’s starting to actually negatively impact on your lives then your Fiance needs to stand up to her. It wont be easy but it’s what’s best for both of you in the long run.

 

I hope you guys work it out.

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

He needs to be a big boy and stand up to her, regardless of how she will react!! If she gets violent, he should call the cops and have her arrested, and get a restraining order if need be. This woman probably needs  to be medicated. Violence towards anyone, least of all her own children is NEVER ok. What if she gets mad one day and hits you and causes you to lose the baby? What happens then?

He also needs to stop giving her money. HE is the CHILD, SHE is the MOTHER. This whole role reversal is for her benefit. If this were my Future Mother-In-Law, I would give my Fiance an ultimatum – either she changes or I’m gone. I know you won’t do that, especially with a baby on the way, but she really needs some serious boundaries put in place. If everyone has a united front in standing up to her, then she will have no choice but to conform or walk away

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

He really needs to stand up to her and for heaven sakes stop giving her money. He is going to be a parent soon and he needs to be able to provide for his child, not his mother.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

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@reine_de_rien:Why would he care if she cut him out? I understand that she’s his mother, but if she treats him this way, why on earth would be want to continue a relationship? That has always puzzled me – why people stay in toxic family relationships.

I agree, I think cutting her off is exactly what she needs. Either she will learn that she needs to act differently, or she won’t, but either way, you both will be happier without her, at least for now

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

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@reine_de_rien: that’s great…seems like he’s finally seeing the light. hope everything works out 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@reine_de_rien: So sorry you are going through all of this. He should say something to her 

 

 

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