- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
my fi and i have a home in mexico and have had an abundance of visitors over the past couple of months. his mother is visiting now and i can only take so much of her.
here’s the problem i have:
flat out…i feel like her [email protected]@k!^g maid. she is so lazy. she has been here since last saturday and has yet to lift a finger. i make all of the dinners and then clean up afterwards and she doesn’t even get her fat ass off of the sofa. i have to bring her meals to her. she doesn’t even pour herself a cup of coffee in the morning. she waits until we make it and get it for her. and she only has it black. she can’t lift the pot and pour? we went out yesterday all day and by the time we came home we were all starving. we came in the house, she plopped on the sofa with her ipad and waited for me to prepare dinner.
i was very ill just recently and was in bed for 2 whole weeks with fever, couldn’t keep anything in, lost 15 lbs, etc (i have never been sicker). i am recovering and finally mobile but i have very little energy and want to get better for the wedding. fmil knows how sick i was and i can’t believe she still expects me to serve her. all she says is, “you look tired”. i just say “yes i am but dinner doesn’t make itself”. trying to give her a hint but she doesn’t get it. i am beginning to shut down and am getting my fi to serve her but i think she should pull her own weight. am i asking too much of a grown woman? i know it’s her holiday but she doesn’t even work, so holiday from what?
i had a feeling she might be like this when she came to visit because of all of the times she has been to our home, she has does nothing. even big christmas dinners, not even the courtesy to offer to help with dinner or clean up.
my dad & stepmom were here for 2 weeks but they were totally self-sufficient. made the coffee in the morning, helped themselves to what they wanted to eat/drink. they did so much around the house here everyday before i even got out of bed. swept the patio, topped up and cleaned the pool, watered the plants, weeded my garden, planted me a new garden, cleaned the driveway. i didn’t want them to go. lol. they like to keep busy.
also, before she came, my fi told her to get pesos because we live in an area where they don’t really accept US money. she came with 200 pesos; that’s less than $20 bucks. so now, whenever she wants to buy something, my fi has to pay for it. is she for real? not to mention, before she came, my fi told her that when she goes back, he would like her to take back 2 bottles of tequila for our wedding (tequila bar) that we can’t get back in canada so please make sure she has the space. when she got here and fi reminded her, she told him that she was already at her luggage weight limit when she came so she probably won’t be able to. gee, thanks.
today, i told my fi that i was too tired to go out with them so they went to the beach without me. i do need to relax and nap but i just needed some alone time. thank god she goes home on saturday.
sorry for the long vent…it did make me feel a bit better though. thanks.