(Closed) FMIL wants a sexy dress for our wedding

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian

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TXbride2015:  Honestly, if she fixed the slit (like, at least HALF that slit needs to be sewn up) AND put a liner in the top, it wouldn’t be that bad. the colors are lovely, as you said.  It’s not something I would expect to see a MOB or MOG in, but I think that’s what you offer as the compromise until you figure out whether she is kidding you or not. Also, have you seen some of the things they suggest as MOB/MOG dresses on these site?!  A LOT of them look like the above (without the slit maybe). It’s ridiculous!

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Uh, I think that’s just a little wedding inappropriate, no matter if you’re a guest or a member of the wedding party.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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princesserbear:  I agree, fixing the slit and adding a liner would make it okay…although I might want to suggest a bit more top coverage as well. But I might also be a prude.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian

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jillbean1217:  Yeah, a little coverlet would actually be gorgeous. Like the kind brides get, but in a champagne color. I’m not so good with the bridal lingo, but the ones where it basically makes a sleeveless dress look like it has sleeves. I was actually contemplating doing something like that with my mom because she wanted some sort of sleeve and it was SO hard to find a MOB dress that wasn’t either frumpy/outdated looking or sleeveless. Luckily we found her a gorgeous short sleeved dress we are both obsessed with. I seriously might ask to borrow it after the wedding sometime, haha.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I agree it’s definitely a revealing dress but I don’t think you can tell her what to wear. If she wants to, for lack of better words, to make a fool of herself, then you can’t stop her. 

I’m not sure if this is what you were getting at, and if not, then ignore me 😀

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Oh dear.. 

Maybe suggest a specific dress you think would be more appropriate and just say how beautiful you think it would look on her. I would act like it’s just something you saw by chance in a store as to not offend her. I’d say something like, “in case you don’t want to go through the hassle of trying to fix the slit on that dress, I saw this dress that I think would look amazing on you as is.” 

Hopefully she finds something at Nordstrom! They have gorgeous lace dresses that I think look “sexy” in a very classy way! That is where the mother’s got their dresses for my wedding and they are soooo lovely!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I guess I just really don’t see the issue, she is a grown ass woman and if she wants to be the laughing stock of the wedding— it’s no real reflection of you. She could come with a paper bag on, and you’re still the bride… so I wouldn’t spend too much time on her wardrobe attire.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

I guess the dress is a bit shocking, but if she has the figure for something like this and gets a few modifications (lining,slit closed) and maybe even some straps because of her bustline, she’ll probably look great in it. How old is she? I’ve seen some older women trying on prom gowns and trying to squeeze into things cut for young girls, which definitely look ridiculous. (Actually, this might be one of them!)

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian

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TXbride2015:  You’re absolutely right that it would be better to just get a new dress and that the one above would need likely costly alterations. HOWEVER, I think whatever dress she gets will be…slightly inappropriate. Of course I don’t know your Future Mother-In-Law, but in my experience people with REALLY BIG fake boobs tend to show them off. Alos, a person that picks that dress to wear to their son’s wedding is not interested in covering up. Which is actually fine, I’m not trying to judge her. I think she probably has a nice body and likes showing it off. Is it inappropriate to do at a wedding? Probably. But I know I see all sorts of people at weddings (guests) where I’m like “couldn’t you have covered it up JSUT ONCE for a wedding?! Their answer to me would probably be “No. You can suck it.”

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

If she adjusts the slit & adds lining, I actually really like it! Her boobs may be the star of the show, but it kind of sounds like most people would expect something like that from her. I really think you should bite your tongue & wait til you see it in person. Even then, I don’t really think you’re in a place to tell your husband’s mother what to wear.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry I disagree with most other posters here….that dress is so inappropriate for the mother of the groom. Especially considering she has a large chest. I would never wear something like that to a wedding, family or not.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Cottage on the Creek

I would just let her do her thang. Is she single & trying to cougar?

 

ETA just reread and saw you said her husband… maybe she just wants to feel young and sexy! 

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Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

She’s insane. She’ll attract a lot of negative comment and opinion in that dress, however at least nobody is going to mistake her for a bride! It sounds like she is might choose something equally dodgy if you dissuade her from this and it could be more bridal so I’d probably grit my teeth. 

Or you could send her links to press coverage of Raquel Welsh’s choice of dress at her son’s wedding!

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