Post # 1
Good evening Bees! This is my first post to this site. I have learned alot from many of you laides. I have a few things looming over our short engagement that I feel I could use some guidence on. My fiance and I have been together for 9 Months. We are getting married in less than six months on May 15!! We are both very excited.
Due to the length of our short relationship I have not met his extended family- his mother keeps asking about us having an Engagement party so I can meet them but I feel its silly to do being so close to our wedding date… Thoughts??
Also, theres the money issue. My Fiance brother got married and they put out about 22k to cover radom things in their 35k wedding. Which to me is crazy, with my entire budget being $5,000.00 Most of the money that we are using to pay for the wedding will be coming from tax returns and a refund I will be getting from school for an over payment on my tuition. We wont see the bulk of the money till the new year, so paying for an engagement party would be very hard.
Do we agree to the engagement party?
Who pays for the party?
They have not gone out of their way to discuss any plans about the wedding or their intentions, thoughts, hopes or even offered a congratulations…
The Future Mrs.Campfield.
Post # 3
A friend of mine had her engagement party in april and she got married in June (Got engaged for Christmas). Another friend of mine did not think she needed an engagement party. Like yourself, she thought she didn’t need the extra expenses. Her Future Mother-In-Law kind of pulled through at the last minute and they had a backyard casual style engagement party. Really, it all depends on you. If you do not want an engagement party, then its not mandatory. Simple explain to your Future Mother-In-Law that you do not have the money for it right now. In which case, if she really wants you to have a party, she will throw you one herself (she pays). If not, there is always the option of maybe getting together with the rest of his family and having a casual back yard BBQ of some sort to meet everyone. It doesn’t need to be sometime fancy. Heck, if you want, go for the casual backyard BBQ and label it as an engagement party. Free gifts right? 😉
Post # 4
@Burberry19: LOL a Back yard BBQ would be great… we live in Wisconsin! We are about two weeks away from three feet of snow! :o)
Keeping that in mind what would you suggest for a winter party?
Post # 5
Duplicate post- see other post for more responses.
Post # 6
@future.mrs.campfield:Well, since the wedding is in May, you could have BBQ closer to the wedding date if weather allows. If not, what the heck, go for a winter party. Could be fun!