Post # 32
I would keep them as is. No one else has a problem with it, the designs are a gift (so sweet! I hope my future brother-in-law will do the same for Jason and me!), and your parents and/or his aren’t paying for the entire wedding.
Post # 33
From everything I’ve read on invitation etiquette, only the people hosting are technically supposed to be mentioned on the invites. It’s kind of weird to have someone who is not hosting to be on there, as a non-host can’t politely invite people to someone else’s event.
If she is actually helping to host the wedding, I do like the idea of ‘together with their families” Nice and neutral.
Post # 34
I dont like the “and our families” if one family is contibuting very substantially. They deserve to have their names on invite. It is common in Jewish families to have MOB/FOB invite blah blah and then Groom, son of ….
Post # 35
I’d go with your invitation as is 🙂
Post # 36
If they are chipping in money, they should be included in some fashion. And mentioned because they gave money. It’s rude to not include them at all.