- 10 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
My Future Mother-In-Law wants to “temporarily” live with us. But first a bit of background is necessary…
Last August, my mom’s house was flooded and damaged to the point of being unliveable. She’s a single parent, and ALL of our family is in Korea. My younger brother is still in college, so there was no question that she’d live with us (me, FH, baby daughter) until her house was fixed. After 3 months, she moved back into her house the moment the last of the carpet was laid down, against our wishes to wait! My mom treats my FH like her own son (better than me!), and they get along so well.
Last June, 2 months before my mom’s house disaster, my Father-In-Law was hospitalized for some stomach issues. He’s been in the ICU since then, for 6 months! It’s been awful, to say the least, but we’ve now gotten to a point where we know Father-In-Law will not be recovering. Even if his pancreatitis was cured, the best case scenario is with him in a wheelchair. He’s not a fighter, so more likely he’d be completely bedridden and constantly hopped up on meds. The doctors are pretty pessimistic about his recovery, and they’ve asked Future Mother-In-Law to consider pulling the plug.
So Future Mother-In-Law is a mess. But she sucks–see one of the only other posts I’ve started to see exactly how much she sucks. To an extent, I can understand that she’s a mess b’cuz this is a terrible time; she’s about to lose her husband! But what I don’t understand is how terribly she’s treating everyone around her. Yea, yea, she probably has borderline syndrome… but to be completely-from-the-bottom-of-my-heart-honest, I. DON’T. CARE. She acts like this is only affecting her, and she’s constantly telling her sons how terrible they are for “not caring” wtf. She’s beyond pessimistic, and it’s not helping anyone, especially FIL!
So here’s the point of this poll. My Future Mother-In-Law is such a pathetically jealous person, and she’s been attempting to guilt-trip us for the past several months about the fact that my mom lived with us. Well, now she’s saying that after Father-In-Law passes, she will be too heartbroken and lonely and she needs to live with us. Forget the fact that her second son lives with her. Forget the fact that she has a non-damaged house. Forget the fact that FH planned to move in with her for a month. FH agrees that she’s using it as an opportunity to get her share… of living with us? Yea, wtf, competitive much?
But she’s still his mother, and FH wants to cave. I can tell b’cuz he keeps bringing it up. I do NOT want to live with her, she’s a nightmare! She works 60-70 hours/week, but a considerable amount of that time can be done from home. And she’ll start hardcore asking to babysit by herself, but I don’t trust her, I think she’s a terrible role model. She’ll be so nice one second, sobbing the next, and screaming at us the next! I just don’t want her crazy attitude suffocating us in our 1000 sq.ft. apartment. And the best part? FH works almost 80 hours/week and then spends a ton of time at the hospital with his father, so he’d NEVER be home. Future Mother-In-Law is currently boycotting the hospital b’cuz she claims Father-In-Law used to physically abusive (not true), and she’s resentful that she’s having to foot the bill for “a condition he himself caused”. WTF. So she’ll be home to play with the baby all the freaking time.
Sorry that was so long, obviously this was half a vent lol. What would you do, if you were in my shoes? Should I suck it up for FH?