Post # 17
I gave the Moms free range in what they were wearing to the wedding. My mom is still undecided, but Future Mother-In-Law is weary black dress pants ( she calls them palazzo pants or something…very flowy, almost looks like a long skirt) and a black and pink top. If she really wants to wear LBD I say go ahead, if you want her to standout a little maybe you could get her a nice Pashima or shawl to wear around her shoulder. Just saw your wedding is in June, but some Pashimas are really light.
Post # 18
what style wedding are you having? I guess if its more casual, I could see how a black dress might not fit in. Our wedding is black tie and my mom is wearing the most GORGEOUS black gown ever. It definitely would not be a gown you would wear if you were in mourning or going to a funeral. But if everyone at your wedding is going to be in sun dresses and khakis, then perhaps a black gown wouldn’t work.
Post # 19
Your mom looks awesome! Gorgeous dress.
Post # 20
My mom wore black to my wedding too! I thought she looked adorable.
Of course, she also wore black to her OWN wedding to my stepdad. As did I, as her one attendent. So it’s safe to conclude she wasn’t trying to send me any kind of message by wearing it to my wedding!
So I’m probably the wrong person to ask.
Post # 21
Wow, you have nooooo idea how glad I am that I posted this here before responding to FMIL!
I guess I assumed that if Future Mother-In-Law wore a black dress that she already owns, she must not be that excited for the wedding. I may have assumed that since my own mother has put so much effort into her outfit (colours, jewelry, etc.) and she’s very excited about it! I really shouldn’t assume that my Future Mother-In-Law and my own mother are the same though. You’re also right that it was nice of Future Mother-In-Law to ask for my permission to wear black because she certainly didn’t have to do that.
And for the people who said her outfit won’t look like mourning clothes..I really hope you’re right lol. She doesn’t like to show skin so I’m picturing her showing up in a long black dress with a blazer. But hey, if that’s what she shows up in then I won’t let it ruin my day. Not worth causing a kerfluffle over.
Post # 22
Unless she shows up with a black veil over her face, it will be fine:)
Post # 23
I would say let her wear what she wants. However, I voted no because traditionally, a mother in law wearing black signals to the guests that she doesn’t approve of her son’s choice in spouse. =/ I don’t think this is the case anymore, but some less tactful people might start talking if they see her in black.
Post # 24
I think black is a flattering and classy choice. I don’t think she will look like she is in mourning!
Post # 25
I didn’t read any of the other posts, but my Mother-In-Law wore black and I thought she looked great! Very classy and didn’t clash with anything. In fact, a number of members of DH’s family wore black…
Post # 26
I’m with the “let her wear it” crowd but I might try shoppping together or maybe ask her what she’s wearing with it. Head to toe black might really look like mourning, but if it’s a LBD with, I don’t know how to put it, upbeat? accessories then it’s fine.
Post # 27
You looked so gorgeous! Is it me being weird, or does your Mother-In-Law sort of look photoshopped in? Lol.
Post # 28
lol my fmil is the one who is going crazy that i might pick black as a color.
Post # 29
I think it is because there is a tiny gap between her and Father-In-Law. He is the most awkward person and would not listen to the photog when they kept telling to be uncomfortably close with the person he was standing beside! Ugh.
Post # 30
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
All but 2 of our female guests, including my Maid/Matron of Honor, chose mto wear a black dress to our wedding. I really don’t see what the big deal is.
Post # 31
Her not buying a new dress has nothing to do with how she feels about your wedding!
My son is getting married and I may wear something I already own if it looks good on me. 🙂 ……and I am thrilled about their marriage.