(Closed) FMIL wants to wear cream…

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I don’t think so. There are a million other colors she could wear. I don’t think it’s too much to ask that she doesn’t wear white/cream/ivory to your wedding.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

You are definitely NOT crazy.  It is rude of her.  Perhaps you should explain to her why since she apparently doesn’t know.   Maybe this will help ease the blow.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think it’s crazy at all. I’m the same way. And in my opinion, it’s just a given that a guest, especially a family member, shouldn’t wear any shade of white/cream/ivory to a wedding. I would have no problem telling her to pick another color, especially if she doesn’t have her dress yet.

I’m wearing light gold, and I flipped a switch when my grandmother (dad’s mom) told my dad that she was going to wear gold or champagne. I wanted to keep the kind of offbeat color of my dress a secret until the day of, so I just told my dad to have her pick another color and gave her some suggestions that would be better suited to our color palette.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh no no no no no no no no no!!!!! When MIL’s do something like this it just fires me up!

You are NOT crazy, she it the crazy person for wanting to wear a shade of white to her Son’s wedding. I know that no one is going to confuse her for the bride but geeze louise lady.

If I was you I would deffinately put my foot down and keep on telling her no she can not wear that. If your Fiance or Mother-In-Law say that you are the rude one show them this thread!!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

Maybe you should suggest a color for her. It might make this a lot less stressful for you!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

it’s april in florida, of course she’s going to be looking at light colors! if you don’t want her to wear cream, then you should give her suggestions, like purple or burgundy or indigo or whatever. if she doesn’t have anything to go off of, then she’ll keep picking light colors. i can see that you want everyone else in dark colors so you stand out in pictures, but i don’t think it’s worth getting upset over. we’ve been actively searching for a light gold dress for my mom though, so maybe i’m biased? i would just tell her the look you’re going for, offer some suggestions or say you saw some gorgeous X color dresses at Y and you’d be happy to go with her to check them out. just saying “absolutely no” isn’t much of a help to her.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

my mum wore a cream suit (knee lengthskirt and jacket )with gold buttons and a chocolate brown hat with d&g leopard print shoes

she looked amazing – not bridal like at all and everyone complimented her, all my friends were impressed with her style!

my step mother wore cerise pink and black, and my mother in law wore dark purple

my colourrs were black and gold

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

heres she is on the left with my step dad – in the cream and gold

 

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Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@dgb2010: sidenote, you and your dress are gorg!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t be upset by a cream dress myself if it was a suit or short dress. A long dress that looks like a wedding dress is when you start running into trouble.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You need to talk to your Fiance about why it upset you and how it’s innappropriate. Then he needs to call his mom and clarfy that he also thinks it’s innappropriate and would prefer her to wear a darker color. Also have him point out that he wants her to look like apart of the bridal party so that she’ll be easily recognizable as the MOG.

In all honesty it doesn’t matter what colors the moms wear. I think its silly when brides get all upset about what colors they wear (as long as it’s not white/ivory/champagne etc). It’s not like they wil be posing with the bridal party. I’ve never once seen a MOB or MOG cooridinate with the wedding party. So go ahead and let them wear what they want – as long as it’s not a shade of white! lol

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