(Closed) FMIL wants to wear my colors

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

Your colors are GORGEOUS by the way. LOVE!

I’m not sure what I would do here. My Future Mother-In-Law wanted to wear our colors because she thought I wanted her to, and because she thought it would look nice in the pictures. If you’ve got the same situation, I’d just tell her it would look nicer if she complemented your mother’s dress and show her a few color options so she knows what to look for. Hopefully that works!

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

How about a different shade of green? I think a much darker shade of green would look good with the other colors you’ve mentioned and may still be something she likes.

Good luck!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think it’s totally fine for her to wear green. Maybe a different shade of green?

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Personally, I wasn’t big into dictating what the moms wore.  I kind of felt like I wanted their personalities to shine through.  My mom opted for wedding colors (and she looked great), and his mom opted for a lighter version of the same color in a pantsuit.  Whatever was going to make them feel beautiful was good with me, and the fact that Mother-In-Law wore a pantsuit was so completely her!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Why not let her wear her favorite color? it’s part of your wedding color scheme PLUS she loves it.  I can’t see how this is a conflict as it seems preferable over someone that wants to wear white, or some out there color or something super odd.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Why not let her wear her favorite color? it’s part of your wedding color scheme PLUS she loves it.  I can’t see how this is a conflict as it seems preferable over someone that wants to wear white, or some out there color or something super odd.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The idea for a darker shade of green is good. Or maybe suggest something that has green in it…not all green though. That way she gets her favorite color and you get something that isn’t like your bridal party.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think, traditionally, the MOB is supposed to call the MOG after she has picked her dress to “coordinate.”  Maybe you could pick another color that would work with your mom’s dress (like a chocolate brown or gold?), and have your mom suggest it to the MOG?  At least she would have a reason for suggesting that color because of traditional etiquette, and your Future Mother-In-Law might go along with it for the same reason.

Personally, I’m all about Mrs. DG’s suggestion of letting them wear whatever they feel comfortable in.  Everyone in our families wore different colors and even clothes of different levels of formality, and it all looks great in the pictures!  It’s cool to see how their personalities show through the pictures because of the clothes they picked.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I think we are going to let them wear what they feel best in.  Afterall they won’t be standing up with the BMs during the ceremony so all you’d have is when the two groups are together for a few pictures.  Which get thrown in an album and forgotten about.  I wouldn’t stress over it. 

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