(Closed) FMIL wants to wear same color as my mom….

posted 11 years ago in Family
  • poll: What should I do?
    Nothing, play dumb : (19 votes)
    32 %
    Tell my mom about it ASAP and see what she wants me to do : (23 votes)
    39 %
    Intervene and tell FMIL she can't wear the same color : (12 votes)
    20 %
    Other (explain below) : (5 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 32
    Member
    2856 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I am interested in finding out how this turns out. I have seen many weddings where the mothers wore the same color but different dresses and they looked amazing. My Mom and Future Mother-In-Law are wearing the same color but the dresses are so different that I know they both will look fab at the wedding.

    Post # 33
    Member
    1955 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

    I don’t really get this, why does it matter if both ladies wear the same color dress? Isn’t it also possible that guests might wear a brown dress too? I think it shouldn’t even be a cause for concern, especially bc unless they wear the exact same dress, it won’t even be noticed by anyone…and if your maids are wearing chocolate brown then it will just look like everyone is matching, which is totally fine…sorry but i think Future Mother-In-Law should get to wear what she likes and your mom shouldn’t be bothered by it…

    Post # 34
    Member
    1018 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Wow, is this really a thing? That the MOB and MOG don’t wear the same color? I had no idea…. I’m with rungurl10, it seems silly to me. On the other hand, if this is going to be an issue, I would talk to Future Mother-In-Law. Say something like,

    “I would really love it if you would choose a dress in teal. This way you and mom would both stand out as individuals in the photos. Besides, you really do look stunning in teal and this is a big day for you, too!”

    Post # 35
    Member
    1149 posts
    Bumble bee

    I think MissRain’s idea is right-on.  Make it about how you want Future Mother-In-Law to stand out from the pack and she will likely become (re)motivated to look for a teal dress. 

    Let us know how it goes!

    Post # 36
    Member
    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I’ m sorry you’re having to deal with this!  My mom would be the exact same way if my Mother-In-Law chose to wear the same color.  And…my mom would hold a grudge for eternity.  I love my mom but it would really get under her skin.

    This situation happened to my SIL at her wedding.  My Mother-In-Law had picked out a kelly green dress after the MOG chose taupe.  2 weeks before the wedding the MOG changed her mind to a sage green.  So my Mother-In-Law had to get another color dress because she thought people would be talking about it all night.  Really?  I don’t think people would be gasping that it was in the same color family.

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