Post # 1
I’m not exactly sure where to post this but…I will preface this by saying that I really like my Future Mother-In-Law, she is the sweet, kind and caring and I have never had any problems with her whatsoever. When FH and I visited her a few months ago she showed me the black dress that she bought for our wedding. She was really exicited about her purchase and I think she’ll look just fine. When I mentioned this to my Mom and my Aunt they got a little weirded out and said that the MOB and MOG traditionally wear something colorful and that she is committing a bit of a faux pas. Is this true? I know Future Mother-In-Law means no harm at all by wearing black and I’m sure she was just as clueless about this tradition as I. Would you be upset if your Future Mother-In-Law wore black??? Honest opinions please!!
Post # 3
I don’t think black at weddings is a faux pas anymore. It’s a flattering, formal, common color in dresses! Look at how many bmaids and guests wear it now.
I wouldn’t read too much into it. If she looks nice and is comfortable, that’s all that matters.
Post # 4
While I have not seen any MOG’s wearing black before, I also would not think it looked bad if I saw it at a wedding. As long as it looks nice and you both like it, I think it’s fine.
Post # 5
I agree with Mermaid. Black is very common. A lot of women feel most comfortable in black. I wouldn’t get upset over this, especially if you’re having an evening or formal wedding.
Post # 6
How fancy is your wedding? If it’s a more formal occassion I would say black is awesome.
However I told my mom (who loves black) that I would really appreciate it if she chose a different color as we are having an outdoor, daytime, slightly casual wedding.
I don’t know if its a faux pas, but I think its just a little I’m-in-mourning if its not appropriate for the level of formality/tone of the occassion. BUT, that is only my opinion.
If you don’t care then it should bother your aunt and momma.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2009 - The 19th Century Club
I think it’s completely fine! I’m encourage my mom to wear a cute black dress/outfit if that’s what she likes. Our colors are black and white, so she’ll fit in quite nicely! Although, my aunt did mention to my mom that she shouldn’t wear black and my mom got a little concerned…but I assured her this was fine!
I definitely think these "rules" are changing as weddings with all kinds of themes/styles/decor are planned. If it’s a great dress that she looks and feels good in, I say give her the green light and make her feel great about the purchase. Letting her know that you like it and approve of it will also help if people make comments about it (I’d hope they wouldn’t, but you never know!)…if she knows you’re on board, she’ll be reassured!
Post # 8
No faux pas committed…..black is actually a trendy wedding color now. Especially if it’s an evening wedding!
Post # 9
unless your weddign is at like 1 pm and in a church, i think she’s fine.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2020 - Oakland Manor
After a stupidly long (and not finished) hunt for a MOB dress I can honestly say that so many of them are champagne or black. Why? I have no idea! My dress is champagne so my mom’s choice’s are now limited to 80% of dresses that are black and the 20% we can never find that look good and aren’t black. uhg.
My mom is also concerned about the black, but I told her to wear brightly colored accessories and she’ll be fine. I mean, assuming we ever fnd a dress for her!
Post # 11
For Moms looking for something a little out of the ordinary,have them look at and try on some dresses by Cameron Blake by Mon Cheri. I had a terrible time trying to find something not too young or too frumpy. These dresses were really classic and beautifully constructed.
I actually wore black & white for my daughter’s wedding just last week. I don’t think I’ve ever gotten so many compliments!
Post # 12
I think it’s fine. It sounds as if your Future Mother-In-Law is very sweet and well-meaning. It also sounds as if you have a great relationship with her! I was also just at a wedding this weekend where the MOG wore black b/c it’s what she’s most comfortable in. She loves her new DIL and also didn’t mean any harm. I don’t think any of the guests took it that way either.
I say, since you and your Future Mother-In-Law have a good relationship, she was really excited to show you the dress, and you’re sure she doesn’t mean any harm, let her be comfortable! I like dorsay’s idea of the brightly colored accessories…or a very fun color for her shoes!
Post # 14
Thanks so much ladies! We’re having a 11 am ceremony at an arboretum. Her dress is tea length and very cute, so I think she’ll look just fine. I just got a little worried after my Mom’s reaction.
Post # 15
As others are saying, I think it’c ompletely fine. Black at weddings USED to be a faux pas in general, but not so much anymore. In fact, a growing trend to to have all the BMs in black dresses.
My mom’s walking me down the aisle, and she’s purchased a lovely black dress, accented with a white sash, and I’m very happy with her selection.
I’d just advise other family members who think this is a faux pas that it’s an outdated rule, and that your Future Mother-In-Law looks lovely in the dress, and you’re excited for her to wear it. Enthusiasm can easily rub off on people 🙂
Post # 16
I think black is just fine!! classic and beautiful!