(Closed) FMIL wearing same color dress as me. WTF???

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Is it a long or short dress?

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

To me, this isn’t an issue. I’d have your SO talk to her.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

The only one who will look bad is her.  Most people will definitely side eye someone showing up in the same color as the bride.  Just let it go.  No one is going to mistake her for the bride and making a big deal of it will make you seem petty.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Ya I would maybe have your SO talk to her. If it will cause more of a problem or if it doesn’t make a difference, just forget about it. It may be annoying but realistically she will not look the least bit similar to you. It will be more than obvious that you are the bride!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My Future Mother-In-Law is wearing an ivory dress and so am I.  She doesnt get the chance to feel special or pretty and she found a dress she loves.  There will be no confusion between myself and her so Im not concerned about it. Ill be the one in the wedding dress and she wont be.  Maybe she didnt even realize about the color….

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you’re fine with it whatever, but if I were a guest at your wedding I would think to myself “WTF!?”

Tell her NO if you’re not okay with it. This is your day.

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think people know not to wear white. Beyond that I think it’s up for grabs. If the bride decides to wear red, it’s not like nobody else can wear red. That being said, if it’s a really really pale pink then it goes in the “too close to white” catagory. But I, personally, wouldn’t say anything beause it’s not worth drama. But that’s me.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Did she know you were wearing beige? Is her dress very similar to a wedding dress?

To be honest, I feel that this isn’t as big an issue as you’re making out. She wanted to wear a black dress (which is very common at weddings these days). Unless she wanted to show up in full mourning regalia, then black shouldn’t really be an issue. To ban her from wearing black, and now ban her from wearing colours similar to beige leaves her with only a few options; especially if she usually struggles to find a colour that suits her.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Just FYI, White was the color of mourning for a very long time. Black, in some cultures was a color for celebration. So, if anyone is worried about someone showing up in black to your wedding, white is also a mourning color.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@LadyElva– +1

Why was she told not to wear black?? I feel like its so common these days. My mother is wearing black to my wedding, lol…

I understand why you are mad. It sounds like maybe she went out of her way to choose it on purpose and that is what is upsetting. If it just happened to be a dress she loved and couldnt find anything else, then yes I would be fine with my Future Mother-In-Law wearing something the same color as my dress. However if she were purposefully doing it to be spiteful then thats a another story!

My Future Mother-In-Law had a really hard time finding a dress for my FSIL’s wedding so I knew that she was going to have the same problem this time around with my wedding. She found a dress she loved that is only made in ivory (I’m wearing white) but said that she just couldnt wear that color to our wedding. I told her I really didn’t mind and to get the dress. She still didn’t get it, but I would have been 100% okay with it.

 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Oh my! This reminds me of the movie Monster-In-Law. You should have your Fiance talk to her about it and let her know that it is NOT okay to wear the same color as the bride.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@JenGirl:  I worked at the mall and you would be shocked at the number of people I had to suggest to not get white as a wedding guest!

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