(Closed) FMIL wedding detail drama (warning: long post)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Since FIL’s think that because “they’re paying for everything so it’s MY way”, I would suggest NOT letting them help and have you and your Fiance stick to that tight budget. If Future Mother-In-Law keeps on insisting, then you hold your ground and say, “not until you let ME make the decisions for MINE and MY FI’S wedding, NOT yours.” There is absolutely nothing wrong with a cash bar, and alot of people are doing away with favors and resorting to “candy buffets”. You do what you and your Fiance need to do to make this your wedding, even if it means passing up on free help. :-/I know it sucks but in the end, you would be so proud and happy.

Post # 4
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14443 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If they are willing to pay for favors and an open bar, and you are not opposed to having either, why not just agree and let them pay for it?  If they were demanding it and the $ had to come out of my pocket, then no, I would not budge, but if they want to pay for it, by all means!  It may not be your vision for rehersal dinner, but if she wants to pay for more guest and plan it, I’d just say so be it and not cause ripples.  As long as she’s not requesting anything too rediculous that you are hell bent against.

Post # 5
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4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that your Fiance needs to have a talk with his mom, and tell her that he wants to be able to talk to her about the wedding details, but every time he tries she puts down the ideas you and him like, and that it is hurting his feelings. The main thing is putting it on him, because it’s his mom and she’ll deal with it a whole lot better if it’s coming from him instead of you. I actually think her ideas sound nice, but I know that it would annoy the hell out of me if my Future Mother-In-Law was making all of these ‘suggestions’.

Post # 6
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4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My opinion on the matter is she *does* have some say, not all but a good part in how her money is being spent.

Cash bar, the issue with host was cost yes? So if she’ll foot the bill what’s the issue?

Favors, is she cooking them? Let her. Edible favors are the best.

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