(Closed) FMIL Wedding Outfit Dilemma

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Cappugcino:  I did the “This is what my mom bought! YAY!” thing and showed pictures to get the idea across. Also, a trip to the venue. But if your wedding is actually in 2014 I really wouldn’t worry about it now..

Post # 5
8104 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Cappugcino:  I would just leave it alone and not say anything. I’m in the camp of letting grown women choose their own clothes and if they pick something inappropriate, they are the only ones it reflects on. Your Fiance already said something — no big deal if he was comfortable with it, but if I were you, I would not add to it. If she asks you can give an honest opinion, but if she doesn’t ask you, I recommend leaving it alone.

Post # 6
3697 posts
Sugar bee

Yeah, it sounds like you have a very tactful plan for handling it, and plenty of time to do it. I wouldn’t worry about this too much – it will blow over and I’m sure your Future Mother-In-Law will look lovely. When I clicked on the thread, I was expecting to see something about how she was insisting on wearing a skin-tight mondo-cleavage fire-engine red tear-away dress to your Amish ceremony, or something. You’ll be fine. Tongue Out

Post # 7
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I don’t think I would say anything. Your Fiance has already told her not to wear the beach outfit, IMO it should be left at that. In the end she is going to wear what she wants.

Post # 9
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012


Don’t bring up the other outfit at all… and certainly not the weight issue !!

I’d send her a note… saying

Mr C mentioned that you asked him about what to wear to the Wedding … so I thought I’d send you some pics of the outfits my Mom has been looking at considering, so you’ll have an idea as to formality etc.

(You can mention formality, as your Fiance already has)

The one thing I would do… is find out specifically what your Mom has planned for herself… because the norm is the MOB picks first.  And it would suck if your Future Mother-In-Law went out and bought one of these exact same dresses that your Mom has been looking at strictly because she thought the email examples were to be taken literally !!

So it is helpful to say… Mom bought her dress, and it is Royal Blue.

Hopefully after all is said & done… FMIL will take the hint, and ask you about dresses she might find / like for herself… questions in regards to colour in particular

Do you think I should wear a shade of blue too ?  Will we clash ?  Should we all be in the same colour family as your Wedding Colours etc (ie Royal Blue – Lilac – Deep Purple)

Hope this helps,

And hopefully your Future Mother-In-Law will take the hints in good form, and the end result will be pleasing to you both.


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