Fmil will not talk about wedding

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Why do you need to talk to her about it? Just tell her where to show up and when. Done.

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper

Have you worked things out with your FI? If not, why are you moving forward with wedding planning? 

How old is your Fiance is Future Mother-In-Law is 90 years old? 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I didn’t discuss my wedding with my Future Mother-In-Law at all. I sent her an invitation and she showed up.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’m curious to know- what do you really need to talk with her about? Why would this cause tension?

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

ingognito345 :  Ahhh, well she’s 90, though. Would it be too terrible if you just plan it yourselves and then share things with her so she knows what’s happening but you’re not waiting for her input? Then you can honor her as being part of the planning but she doesn’t have to do much of anything.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

Ugh. I don’t know why it’s doing that and I can’t edit. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

ingognito345 :  That’s cool but she clearly doesn’t care to participate and you can’t force her to. So just go ahead with planning without her.

Post # 11
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Honey bee

ingognito345 :  Except she’s clearly not interested.  She says she won’t talk about it.  Take the hint and just continue about your planning then instead of forcing it.  Just because something is a “custom” doesn’t mean it’s required.  Use a bit of common sense and stop trying to engage someone who doesn’t want to be involved unless it absolutely directly involves her (i.e. transporting her to the wedding if she is unable to travel by herself). 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Does she come from the same culture as you?

 

I think some people would consider your problem a blessing.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

OT *** Such weird code, my avatar is showing for me in the screengrabs/embeds (??) bees are posting. ***

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

After reading your previous posts I seriously don’t understand why you would be continuing to plan a wedding with this person. 

If you do go through with this, then leave your Future Mother-In-Law out of it and just tell her when to show up. 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee

Why are you wedding planning when you’re considering not going through with it?? You need to figure that out first.

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