Post # 1
Sorry, but this post is going to be a bit of a vent… Now, I’m not angry at my Future Mother-In-Law, but I just don’t understand her all the time.
We are planning our wedding for Mid-November with a 10:30am ceremony. Now here’s the part I don’t understand…
She has these unrealistic ideas about what HER dress should look like (and the list is long- a lot longer than mine was whens shopping for my wedding dress)…and every condition comes with a comment too of course…
1. the neckline: can’t be sweetheart or v-neck. No matter how many times we tell her that the neckline can be raised or altered- she won’t hear it. Anything that comes close to showing cleavage is off limits
2. the length: it must be long for some reason. apparently thats the only thing she feels comfortable in- despite the huge number of modest tea/knee length dresses out there. keep in mind that our ceremony is at 10:30am. Everyone else (but me) will be in a short dress.
3. Must have some type of sleeve. No off the shoulder looks, no spagetti strap, etc.
So we search online and find some contenders- only to be told that they are too fitted, or look too young/old/frumpy/etc.
I sure am glad that I can have her daughters (my bridesmaids) help her out with this one.
Post # 3
It sounds like she has been dreaming of this day a long time. This happens a lot if they had an overbearing MOB steal their day. Just laugh it off and don’t get involved in the shopping. Hopefully that is the only thing she will drive you cray cray about 🙂
Post # 4
@secondchances: Yeah- well, the guest list WAS an issue, until she told me that she would be paying for all her guests! Yay on that one!
She keeps telling me that she LOVED the dress she wore to her 1st daughter’s wedding, so I suggested that she just pull that one out (I mean- it was over 10 years ago- no one will remember). I guess that my suggestion was out of line- she acted like I was crazy. Yup. I’m the crazy one.
Post # 5
Not to take anything away from your rant, we all know mother in laws can tend to get on our nerves and be annoying.
However I buy dresses for a living and her criteria for a dress is not unrealistic, they’re valid call outs I hear daily. Especially the sleeves, arms gets giggly when you get older and women get self-conscience about it. They just want to feel comfortable, and to do that it means covering the legs (long dresses) and the arms (sleeves) most of the time.
Post # 6
Some people are just very particular about their clothes. I would not give her more suggestions as it will only be frustrating for you, as you can’t see the picture she has in her head. Luckily she has lots of time to go shopping.
She may be worried about how her legs look and wants a longer dress? Why not just let her approach this on her own?