- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
Back up story… my fi’s neice was married 3 years ago.Fiance and I were NOT together at the time.
Let me preface it to say that we go back to 1999 with her as she was a baton twirler with my daughters. Most of the team was extremely close, like family. Her aunt is my best friend, and my daughters and I have always been at the family functions, that is how close we are.
Anyway… like i said all she kept talking about was her wedding, facebook myspace in person, we were bombarded. She is the reason I do not talk about it so much. Anyway, we were advised we are on the top (as in first 4) of the waitlist for the wedding, the venue holds 250; and I was fine with that. I was invited to the bridal shower, however it was the same day as my daughters prom, sorry prom won out. Bachelorette party, i was out of town. Wedding invite never came, but the pics were posted all night long. No biggie.
Later that year Fiance and I started dating, we have known each other through my best friend for 16 years. He and I were talking as he was asking why I wasn’t at the wedding, I told her we were waitlisted and didn’t make the cut. Turns out he was waitlisted as well. This is her own UNCLE. Mind you they have a fairly small family… she has on dad’s side 2 uncles, 1 aunt, and 3 cousins. He didn’t get an invite to the wedding until 2 weeks before the wedding. He is still hurt over this.
Now I announce our engagement, first thing she wants to know what her job is… bridesmaid or flower girl. Heck, he doesn’t even want her there at all. I am thinking of letting her be in charge of the guest book, if anything at all.
in the mean time we have a very family oriented ceremony… My side is my 2 best friends and my 3 daughters. Grooms side is his step son from his prior marriage, best friend (my cousins husband) and for sure one brother and either the other brother or another friend, and his nephew. My will be 20 yo wants to be flower girl… no problem. His 16 yo nephew is the Lord of the Rings, so why not be different.
I just wish his brother in TN would make up his mind if he is going to be able to come down for the wedding so that we can finish with those plans. Can’t order groomsman’s gifts that are personalized if I don’t know whether to put Tim or Jeff on it. UGH… why can’t this be easier???