Post # 1
We picked out tuxedos for our whole bridal party. Fob and fog included. My finances dad refuses to rent the tux we have picked out and his mother refuses to wear the dress I picked out. I’ve tried to explain to them that I want everybody to match and my parents are completely agreeing. However, this is really bugging me. Has this happened to anybody else? And how did you handle it?
Post # 3
I hate to break it to you but unless they are actually part of the bridal party, you don’t get to dictate what they wear. I know you may not like it but what clothes they choose to wear is their choice, they are fully grown adults and hopefully can dress themself. FWIW, my parents dresses “in theme” as in the same colors but not the same exact outfit, DH’s parents…. didn’t. Father-In-Law wore this AWFUL hideous khaki sports coat with navy pants and Mother-In-Law was in purple. My colors were red and gold. And I hated it and it didn’t match but at the end of the day totally wasn’t worth stressing about because they are in two pictures.
Post # 4
I didn’t think parents were part of the bridal party? And I think it’s really strange when people don’t trust their parents to pick out clothes for a wedding.
I know you might have a vision of both sets of parents wearing the same outfits, but I don’t believe that you really can dictate what they wear. You can make suggestions, and even say “I would like you to coordinate the colours/styles with XYZ.” But ultimately, I think they should get the final say.
Post # 5
I think you are way overstepping your boundaries. They been dressing themselves for years and can pick their own clothing perhaps with input. I wouldn’t be surprised if they put off by you attempting to dictate their clothing.
If I were you I would apologize and work on consulting with them, then just let it go. At the end of the day you shouldn’t be micromanaging your Fil and creating bad feelings that can last for a long time, and which in the grand scheme of things that are important that day I think this ranks low on the totem poll and it just isn’t worth mounting a battle over.
Post # 6
Parents are not part of the bridal party, I’m not really understanding the insistence of this and OP that parents match the wedding colors. I told my Future Mother-In-Law that she could wear anything she wants as long as it wasn’t white/ivory which is just disrespectful in my opinion. It’s not worth arguing over.