(Closed) FoB issues.. Venting (long sorry)

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

To be completely honest? I *would* elope.

He said you get x amount of money, either to spend on the wedding or to keep.

If he’s going to be like this, I’d stick that money in savings, and go on a cruise with JUST me and my Fiance, and have our wedding during the cruise, just the two of us.

And then you’re already on a lovely honeymoon afterwards.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Honestly at a certain point if they money ends up costing you your sanity and causes tons of drama it isn’t worth it. I would have the wedding you want and can afford and cut Dad out of the equation. I think when parents choose to contribute to weddings they should do so of their own accord and shouldn’t be worried about when the other set of parents are doing. I

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

i guess you should talk to your dad and tell him how you feel, if he’s still acting like that, maybe you should elope and then plan a reception or something (if you want to)

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Soontobeemrsb:  Your dad is being unreasonable in some aspects.  But typically money comes with strings attached.  I can understand your dad not agreeing to pay for a Destination Wedding and I can kind of understand his guest list stipulations.  That said, if you want more control over your wedding, you really have to pay for it yourself.  Respectfully decline his contribution.

If you elope, prepare yourself for some major backlash. 

And don’t get him on the phone/skype with your ILs.  No good will come of that!

 

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