Post # 1
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Worker bee
My dad is planning on wearing a dark grey suit to my wedding but my fiances’s dad and several people on his side of the family will be wearing tuxedos including the groomsmen. It’s not a requirement that the men wear tuxedos but will it be weird if my dad isn’t dressed as formally as some people who aren’t even in the wedding party. We’re having a black tie optional wedding.
My dad wore a suit to his own wedding and has never worn a tux before. He dresses casually for work and doesn’t go to formal events so dressing up in a suit is the fanciest he dresses. Am I thinking about this too much and it doesn’t really matter or should he wear a tux as well?
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
It might look a bit off, but personally I would never pressure him into wearing something he wasn’t comfortable with. I’d rather a smile on his face in a suit than a frown in a tux.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
All eyes will be on you. No one will notice.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
I think it will be fine, your dad shouldn’t have to wear a tux just because some other men prefer it!
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
My dad wore black jeans and a vest. I think it’s okay, personally.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
My dad wore slacks and a linen button up for my first wedding while the groomsmen were in suits. I didnʻt think twice about it
Post # 7
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Helper bee
For photos and stuff, he might look out of place if he isn’t dressed as formally as everyone else. I’m pretty detail-oriented, so it would bug me if they weren’t evenly dressed. For what it’s worth, I don’t think a tux would be any more uncomfortable than his suit unless he’s wearing a cumberbund or something. They are pretty similar in fit.
Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
Same level of formality, but not matching the men in the Wedding Party.
Unless he doesn’t want to. Then he will wear what he pleases.
Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
Not sure it’s worth the worry. But for sure make sure he knows so he can decide to change his chouce if he thinks he will feel out of place.
But for what it’s worth, my dad passed many months before my wedding. He was going to be dressed casually and in a wheelchair. I told him to wear whatever he wanted.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
My wedding party will be in Tux’s, but I seriously doubt I’ll get dad in one😂. But I’m not fussed.
Post # 11
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Worker bee
jellybellynelly : that’s very true! I want him to be happy with what he’s wearing. Thanks 🙂
Post # 12
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Worker bee
pearfectprincess : haha glad I’m not the only one!
Post # 13
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Worker bee
sweatergal007 : Thanks I’ll make sure to let him know what everyone else is wearing. I’m really sorry to hear about your dad.
Post # 14
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Worker bee
danakxox : Thanks, I’m probably worrying about it too much! To be honest it doesn’t really bother me I was more concerned about what other people at the wedding would think.
Post # 15
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Worker bee
DanaWeddingGuest : thanks if he ends up wearing a tux I’ll make sure it’s different from the wedding party