Post # 1
A few weeks ago, I posted about not wanting to plan my BFF’s baby shower here. I got great advice and thought I was off the hook. Not so fast. I received an email today from her mom saying it’s shower planning time, stating the locations they are considering, dates and that she’s really going to need my help.
Just to recap. I do plan to attend and I would have to fly there. Her mom is difficult to deal with.
Any advice on how I should respond to her email? I don’t mind helping with small things like the cake or invites, but I really would like to pass on the planning but not seem like a bad friend.
Post # 3
I’d use the flying as an excuse but assure her that you will be there and help with any last minute preparations.. I don’t think her planning style is fair at all. If you want to plan high price points, you should pay for high pricepoints.
Post # 4
Dear “Crazy Mom”,
Thanks for touching base and updating me with the plans for Jenny’s baby shower. It’s always great to hear from you.
I am so thrilled for Jenny right now, I talk to her regularly and I know she’s just on cloud nine about the baby’s arrival! I cannot wait to meet the little guy/girl!
My schedule as of late is extremely hectic and I am afraid it does not permit me to be very active with the planning process of the shower (particularly because it’s so long distance for me!). I’m sure you understand.
Nonetheless, I have cleared my schedule to attend and I am so excited to see both you and Jenny!
All the best,
*** I think the key to this response is talking to your friend about how you are so thrilled for her, but just cannot be a big part of the shower planning process because of the distance. Tell her you know she’s in great hands because her mom does such a great job party planning..and that you cannot wait to see what she does for this shower! Essentially, who cares if the mom is mad at you? You just want to make sure your friend isn’t…and the only way to ensure that is to talk to her.