Follow up:Fiance wants a prenup encouraged by his mother. Am sad and confused :(

posted 2 weeks ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Busy bee

He called you names, insulted your intelligence, and this wasn’t the first time? Why exactly do you want to marry this Prince Not-So-Charming?

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

sophierobbie :  “today he called me a loser, thick (dumb), and said I am his charity”

Girl, this is not acceptable, regardless of how “sorry” he is. 

Sounds like he is going to hold his wealth over your head for the rest of your life, you’ll always be “below” him. Please think long and hard if you actually want to be with someone who will treat you like this. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

sophierobbie :  “he gets mean and nasty. He has insulted me a number of times before and today he called me a loser, thick (dumb), and said I am his charity…and of course, we didn’t get anywhere near coming to an agreement about his mum. He keeps saying he makes my life better, I live in a big house, have a great career (in his company) and basically saying I’m not allowed to have any problems for that reason.”

Why would you even want to continue with this guy? Let alone marry him?!?!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Sounds like his true feelings came out. 

He feels like he is doing you a favour by dating/engaging/marrying you. Is that the kind of life you want?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

sophierobbie :  bee… why do you want to be with someone who is so disgusting to you?

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

He has insulted me a number of times before and today he called me a loser, thick (dumb), and said I am his charity.   Yeeaahh all kinds of nope.  I’d be out after that outburst.  No man who respects you would say these things to you.  So yeah, pp is right his real feelings came out.  This is what he really thinks of you.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

I can’t understand how the most upsetting thing to you about your relationship is the pre-nup. It seems there are so many, many more things to be concerned with first. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Are you able to get another job if needed? Don’t marry this guy because you’re scared to lose your job/security. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

If someone called me a loser and thick I would want to associate with them let alone be friends with them let alone MARRY them. Everything else aside, him saying that to you is not ok. Those words shouldn’t even enter his head in any capacity when he is talking to his fiance, however annoyed he is about something. They shouldn’t come out of his mouth even as an accident. I think you deserve someone who won’t say things like that to you. Sending love x 

Post # 11
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Newbee

Girl… a pre-nup isn’t the problem here. Your fiance is a spoiled, entitled asshole. Please, PLEASE do not marry this douchecanoe. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Are you the same girl who made like 3 separate prenup posts yesterday?

Seems odd that this is the same topic and you also don’t know where the reply button is…

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Have you pointed out that prenups aren’t binding in the UK? 

Besides, he sounds like a right idiot. Don’t marry this douche 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I couldn’t even get past the fact that his mom is his own personal financial guru and he won’t even consider a second opinion on anything. I would not marry someone like that.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Find another job and break up with him. This isn’t healthy. 

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