Post # 1
Thanks for all your advice, very useful!
I said to him we should have a mature, logical talk to discuss our future. We sat down and I explained that we should work on our issues before getting married, and how I felt his reasoning for wanting a prenup was wrong and hurtful. I then went on to say I have an issue with his mother being involved in his finances (sorry I didn’t mention this in my previous post but his mother is a financial advisor with many years of experience and she is the financial director of the company they own together).
He told me his mother helps him with VAT and she’s a careful person, therefore they don’t lose out on money paying another professional financial advisor.
As reasonable as that sounds, I really believe it’s untrue. His mother has a controlling personality and he runs to her when she snaps her fingers. If she can’t get hold of him on the phone after calling 5 times, she calls me.
I told him how uncomfortable it feels when she is also taking care of his personal finances, he got mean and nasty. He has insulted me a number of times before and today he called me a loser, thick (dumb), and said I am his charity…and of course, we didn’t get anywhere near coming to an agreement about his mum. He keeps saying he makes my life better, I live in a big house, have a great career (in his company) and basically saying I’m not allowed to have any problems for that reason.
He is now extremely sorry but I’m so distraught I feel sick.
Post # 2
He called you names, insulted your intelligence, and this wasn’t the first time? Why exactly do you want to marry this Prince Not-So-Charming?
Post # 3
sophierobbie : “today he called me a loser, thick (dumb), and said I am his charity”
Girl, this is not acceptable, regardless of how “sorry” he is.
Sounds like he is going to hold his wealth over your head for the rest of your life, you’ll always be “below” him. Please think long and hard if you actually want to be with someone who will treat you like this.
Post # 4
sophierobbie : “he gets mean and nasty. He has insulted me a number of times before and today he called me a loser, thick (dumb), and said I am his charity…and of course, we didn’t get anywhere near coming to an agreement about his mum. He keeps saying he makes my life better, I live in a big house, have a great career (in his company) and basically saying I’m not allowed to have any problems for that reason.”
Why would you even want to continue with this guy? Let alone marry him?!?!
Post # 5
Sounds like his true feelings came out.
He feels like he is doing you a favour by dating/engaging/marrying you. Is that the kind of life you want?
Post # 6
sophierobbie : bee… why do you want to be with someone who is so disgusting to you?
Post # 7
He has insulted me a number of times before and today he called me a loser, thick (dumb), and said I am his charity. Yeeaahh all kinds of nope. I’d be out after that outburst. No man who respects you would say these things to you. So yeah, pp is right his real feelings came out. This is what he really thinks of you.
Post # 8
I can’t understand how the most upsetting thing to you about your relationship is the pre-nup. It seems there are so many, many more things to be concerned with first.
Post # 9
Are you able to get another job if needed? Don’t marry this guy because you’re scared to lose your job/security.
Post # 10
If someone called me a loser and thick I would want to associate with them let alone be friends with them let alone MARRY them. Everything else aside, him saying that to you is not ok. Those words shouldn’t even enter his head in any capacity when he is talking to his fiance, however annoyed he is about something. They shouldn’t come out of his mouth even as an accident. I think you deserve someone who won’t say things like that to you. Sending love x
Post # 11
Girl… a pre-nup isn’t the problem here. Your fiance is a spoiled, entitled asshole. Please, PLEASE do not marry this douchecanoe.
Post # 12
Are you the same girl who made like 3 separate prenup posts yesterday?
Seems odd that this is the same topic and you also don’t know where the reply button is…
Post # 13
Have you pointed out that prenups aren’t binding in the UK?
Besides, he sounds like a right idiot. Don’t marry this douche
Post # 14
I couldn’t even get past the fact that his mom is his own personal financial guru and he won’t even consider a second opinion on anything. I would not marry someone like that.
Post # 15
Find another job and break up with him. This isn’t healthy.