(Closed) Food addiction: Need help/advice/support, please??

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m in the same boat as you, I was actually thinking about starting a thread for this. So I can’t help, I’m afraid.

I can’t handle any sort of meal replacement, because I actually end up having panic attacks because although I’ve had the shake, I haven’t actually eaten anything. Weird logic.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I am a bored eater too. Here are two things that helped me, even though both seem really simple. First, keep water on you at all times. Bored water drinking is good for you! Second, don’t keep snacks around. This is pretty straight forward at work, but do it at home too. Try not to buy convenience foods. If it takes you 30 minutes to make something to eat, you will do it a lot less.

Hope that helps?

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

can you set yourself a standard meal time or snack time at work?

can you keep healthy snacks around? i.e. don’t have cookies or pop at your desk. if you need to snack, keep fruit, baby carrots, celery, aka low calorie snacks at hand. even something like plain popcorn is a good option because its fairly low calorie.

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m the same way, I’ve tried not keeping snacks around but I get seriously pissed off and uncomfortable when I don’t have them. I try to keep low calorie stuff on hand but I still eat too much of… everything…

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I eat if I’m bored and if the food is in front of me. I now drink about 100 fl ounces of water or more a day. It will fill you up! Also, keep fruits and veggies around for when you’re in the snacky food. If I have cookies, ice cream, sugar in my house, I’m lucky if it lasts a day! Also, the more I exercise and move, the less hungry I am…not really sure why.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

Emotional eating was a problem for me too.  I even started feeling so guilty about my binges that I threw up a couple times.  I decided to go to therapy and started with “mechanical eating” and then transitioned into “intuitive eating”.  It is a method that teaches you to listen to your body and identify if you are eating for any reason emotional (anxiety, stress, trying to focus, boredom, comfort, ANYTHING) or if you are actually hungry.  It took a year to get completely comfortable with it, but now I can say I am an intuitive eater.  I eat healthier foods because I WANT to, my portion sizes are half the size, and I have lost 20 lbs.  I was originally 147 lbs, and now I am 127.  I wasn’t overweight before, but I was eating large amounts of low calorie foods during the day and then binging on high calorie at night and exercising to compensate (and threw up only twice).  

 Often people think that if they are not purging or restricting that they don’t have an eating disorder, but the thought process is the problem behind most disordered eating and you have already successfully identified emotional eating as one of your issues!!  I strongly recommend therapy and reading the book intuitive eating.  It may be slow weight loss, but the results are amazing.

My life before: I felt uncomfortable in my clothes, I felt shame, I thought about food or about my weight at least 200 times a day, I obsessed about the way my body looks, I compared my body to others, I felt depressed and more anxious.    I never EVER EVER in a million years thought I could trust my body.  I was always afraid that if I let go of trying to control my intake that I would balloon up 100 lbs.  I felt obese at heart but that my restricting and exercising was the only thing that saved me.

My life now: I could cry thinking about the freedom I have in my mind now, I am not tied to food emotionally, it only sustains my body not my feelings, I eat healthier, my intestines are happier, I never realized how much better my stomach feels now that I don’t binge, I’ve lost weight, I feel more confident, the pride in treating my body right has postively impacted every aspect of my life.  I don’t have to think about food because now my body tells me what it wants.   I 100% trust my body to tell me it wants protein or fruit or water and I still have some sweets each day but I can recognize if it is my body or emotions and my body keeps me from going overboard.  If I start to eat too much sweets (usually 1/2 cup ice cream IS enough or 100 calories worth of candy) I start to feel sick.  AMAZING.  My body can actually guide me and my mind can let go.

Message me if I can be of any help to you.  I understand where you are coming from and you can get better!  There is light at the end of the tunnel, I promise!!  It isn’t about self control, it is about learning to respect and trust your body to tell you what it needs.  I hated myself before and now I love me because I am learning to respect me.  

XOXOXO

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

I know everyone is advising you to not have sweet snacks around.  That used to be what I did.  But now I have chocolate, cookies, and candy around the house and I do eat some every day, but only a serving or two.  And I have lost weight over the last 16 months, not gained any!!!  Even during holidays I have maintained my weight.  I still go to therapy once every 3 weeks to maintain my new thought processes and reinforce what I’ve learned, but the effort I put in to being an intuitive eater is MUCH less energy than I put into being a control freak about my eating.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with looking into therapy. There is a root problem associated with any addiction. Until you get that root issue sorted out it won’t go away. 

Therapy really helped me get through my issues and I am now at a healthy weight. 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t know if it’s available in your area, but there’s a group called “over eaters anonymous” to treat people with food addiction. Failing that, you could try individual counselling and therapt for food addiction. It can be treated like other behavioral addictions. My fiance’s dad struggled with it for a long time. 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Shera2550:  I really like your post, and your approach to more mindful/intuitive eating. What is mechanical eating?

I struggle in these areas as well. I had lost fifty pounds when I met my Fiance, and was feeling so confident and beautiful. 3 years after moving in with him, it is ALL back…and I am feeling miserable and disappointed in myself. Its horrible to actually see the disappointment from others when they see me now. My Fiance is very sweet and supportive, and is a gym rat…so he is always encouraging me to go with him. I just feel so stuck and low that I dont even feel like making the effort. Disordered eating is not a fun ride!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ironically, I was binging as I started to read this thread. 

I get cravingdo for food, that’s my problem. I get a good from a favourite restaurant stuck in my head and its all I can think about until I satisfy my cravings by giving in. 

Im not obese, but I could feel a lot better and look better if I had some portion and craving control. It’s hard. 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m the same way. The biggest thing that helps me is to drink lots and lots and LOTS of water. I will literally drink so much that my stomach just feels full and I feel like if I ate anything then I would puke it up. 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - ceremony at a gazebo outside, reception at neighboring restaurant on a lake

@allyfally:  Don’t deplete yourself of your electrolytes by drinking too much water!  It’s possible!  Let your body guide your intake.

@meetmethere2013:  I totally relate to what you are saying.  And of course in that situation NO ONE has control…because this is how the situation usually goes.  You see an ad or a picture or smell a smell or feel a feeling that triggers a thought of ___insert crave food.  We’ll use Oreos since those are one of mine.  And it goes like this: Oooh, I want an oreo.  Nope can’t have an oreo.  I’ll want 4.  Well, no, I’ll eat a sleeve, let’s be real, I’m pathetic, I have no control and I can’t stop.  I better not have any.  I won’t buy any or put them in my house.  Man, I really want an oreo though.  I’ll eat something else to satisfy that craving.  5 foods later…Man, I want AN OREO!!! Damnit, I’ll go get some oreos.  I’m such a fucking failure.  I hate myself.  This is so typical.  I’m so gross and pathetic and weak.  I’ll do better tomorrow.  After this box of oreos, no more for a long time.  

This is a typical repeated scenario for many people.  And it is on a loop often, or at least it was in my head, cuz I got cravings all f’ing day.  And it has many factors that set us up to continue binging.  In this paragraph, I’ve put myself down 10 times.  And it took 15 seconds to think all of this.  After that negative mind-fuck, anyone will want to binge.  The second problem here is that we are setting up a restrictive pattern.  You might think, wait, I’m not anorexic, I’m not restricting.  But all it takes is the THOUGHT of restricting to set off the process!!  In this paragraph, I told myself 4 times that I’m not going to have oreos now or later and I have eaten 5 other foods, repeating the same crap in my head.  

Craving food isn’t your problem!!  The restrictive mindset is.  Following intuitive eating, you allow all of those foods again.  WITHOUT negative self talk.  And you focus 100% on your body.  Your body will eventually tell you, PLEASE DON’T FEED ME (INSERT CRAVE FOOD) AGAIN!  I FEEL SICK!!  And then you don’t eat it for a while but you know that you will allow yourself to it it if you want to.  And when you don’t feel sick, you will have it again, but less, because your body told you so last time.  And so on.  It is the most freeing experience of my life.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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