Post # 1
I was recently diagnosed with a pretty serious soy allergy (looking forward to getting my epipen next month), and my cousin’s wedding is coming up in December. I’m sitting here borrowing trouble wondering what to do about food at the reception, because it turns out that soy is in pretty much everything these days.
Do you think it would be appropriate to contact my cousin (or more likely, his fiancee) to ask them for their caterer’s info so that I can email the caterer my questions about the menu? To be clear, I don’t expect them to make me a special meal–I’m perfectly happy eating a meal before the reception and then packing some snacks in my purse for later in the evening. Basically, does this sound insane to you? Anyone out there dealing with a similar situation (as either a guest or as the bride)?
Post # 3
@skippersarah: Given the circumstances, I think this is totally acceptable. I also think it’s great that you’re prepared to deal with the caterer directly rather than ask the bride and groom to add it to their already overwhelming to-do list.
Post # 4
@skippersarah: Considering my entire husbands side of the family runs the gamut of allergies and all just wrote them on their rsvp cards and left me to make the necessary inquiries and report back, I would gladly take a phone call requesting the caterers info so you can do it yourself.
I attend quite a few events through work and am lactose intolerant. I always contact the venue myself to make my changes. Seriously, the last menu I was sent was salad with cheese, entree steak wih buerre blanc, mashed pototoes, asparagus with creamy cheese sauce and cheesecake for dessert. I was on the phone for like 20 minutes trying to make a special meal arrangement so I would LOVE any guest that saved me that hassle.
Post # 5
I’d think that’s more than reasonable, but yeah, keep the epipen and some Benadryll with you in case something goes awry.
Post # 6
I think it is incredibly wonderful to be willing to talk to the carterer yourself, also that way you can make sure the severity of your allergy is communicated so if you are served something they can be sure to not cross contaiminate. Obviously if you were perscribed an epipen this isn’t the “my tummy hurts” kind of food allergy.
Post # 7
Yep I would contact them. I’m coeliac so I have to be really careful about what I can and cannot eat. I’m sure they would rather get their cater to make you a special meal than you just sit and stare at your food going hungry. They are spending the money on the food so I’m sure they want to see it eaten.
My sister is vegan and her boyfriend is muslim so I am making sure there is going to be food available for their dietry requirements.
Post # 8
Yes. I have a few friends and family who have food allgeries so I have a line on invites that allow people to put any issues they have with food.