Food at smallish weddings…

posted 2 years ago in Food
Post # 2
48 posts
  • Wedding: July 2017

Have you looked into prices for so many options? Usually caterers charge more if you have several options. Most people who have food allergies or only eat certain things will probably eat before your wedding anyway… I know I would. Unless you have a large budget for food you may want to consider at least one less (maybe the fish?). 

Post # 3
433 posts
Helper bee

Normally u get 2 options out of 3,mostly beef, chicken n fish. If u want all 3 u will have to pay extra. Majority of places will have vegetarian and kids option by default in addition to the 2 options above. Mostly kids menu will have pizza, fries etc. 

wouldnt it be okay to pick 2 of 3 meals and then offer chosen 2 and veggie and a kids meal option in ur rsvp?

its sorta kinda ordering from menu but ahead of time. Also u can get all ingredients from the caterer ( let them know what food allergy ur guest has) and let ur guest know so that they can choose the right option.

Else I would think only restaurant will let u order from the menu. 

Post # 5
402 posts
Helper bee

You are a very kind and considerate person and you obviously cherish your friends and family.  And you hear me always say the bride and groom are rigth.  You can have your cake probably and eat it.  Why not work with the venue and get your three or whatever choices.    Once confirmed you can add it to the invite/RSVP and that way the guest can preorder their selection – this likely will save money, time and you get what you wanted.

you can even discuss with the restaurant / venue about having a way to mark all the meals ie a flower, ribbon on the napkin or whatever so the serving staff will know so and so has whatever meal.  

Post # 6
512 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I would suggest NOT having people order from a menu.  That gives them opportunities to change things, and that would cause dinner to take a LONG time to come out.  If you are really concerned for people with allergies, you have a few options, 1) a buffet dinner with plated options for the guests who have allergies, 2) plated dinner for everybody, with separate dinner for them (this is done all the time), 3) buffet dinner for everyone, with one or 2 options being catered to those individuals with allergies.


When working in a kitchen, and an allergy order comes in, pretty much everything stops and everything needs to be cleaned and sterilized before cooking can start, so making sure your chef knows ahead of time what the allergies are will be extremely helpful in regards to getting food out in an orderly fashion. 

Post # 7
2635 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

It may not be the most popular, but as someone with food allergies, I love buffets.  That way I can pick the things I can eat and get a lot of sides if I’m allergic to the main items.

Post # 8
240 posts
Helper bee

We had a smaller sized wedding with only 36 guests, and offered four main options that people ordered table side (steak, chicken, salmon, and a vegetarian mushroom Wellington). Lots of people commented that they really enjoyed having the selection.  The meal selection ran really smoothly, and with multiple servers taking orders the process only took 5-10 minutes for the entire room.

We still requested that peeople notify us of food allergies/sensitivies in advance (on the response cards) to ensure that the caterer had advanced warning of any dietary restrictions for individuals.

There was no difference in cost for offering multiple options through our particular caterer, although the cost of each plate varied (ie: steak was the most expensive, vegetarian was the cheapest of the four options).  They just billed us based on what the final orders were.

Post # 9
5949 posts
Bee Keeper

We had a nut-free buffet dinner with lots of vegetarian items. We had several guests with nut allergies and about fifteen (out of approx 100 guests) who are vegetarian. We also included lactose-free options for a handful of guests who couldn’t have diary, we didn’t have any gluten free guests. The caterers were really awesome and tweaked the menu to suit our needs. Can you reach out to those in your area and see if they know a caterer knowledgable and accommodating with food allergies? We had a very kid friendly wedding and buffets give lots of options for even the littlest eaters. 

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