Post # 1
Hey everyone. My fiance and I are doing plated dinners at our reception and we put meal options on the RSVP cards for our guests to choose from. We asked them to initial next to each guests choice. So far the only issue we’ve had is that one couple requested the steak option for their son…who is 9 months old. We had a kids option on the card – chicken nuggets and fries, but they added a note that he doesn’t eat fried food, but he loves steak so they chose that for him. I know chicken nuggets aren’t the most exiting things for kids, but I honestly thought they wouldn’t request anything for him because of his age (example: my cousin has a 9 month old who she rsvp’d with but didn’t choose any good option for). The kid is 9 months old and I think it’s pretty ridiculous that they requested the steak for him, but I’m not sure how handle it. Should I just let it slide and give it to them? Or tell them the steak isn’t intended for anyone under a certain age? Thanks!
Post # 2
That is … absurd. I can’t believe someone thinks a couple should pay for a steak dinner for a 9 month old. At 9 months, a baby should still get the vast majority of his calories from breastmilk or formula, so he can eat a few bites of his parents’ meal, he doesn’t need his own meal at all – let alone a steak.
I’m super non-confrontational so I’d probably just suck it up and go with it, but you would be well within your rights to just tell them no.
I still can’t believe someone did this.
Post # 3
I doubt a 9 month old would eat a full steak dinner. He can eat some of the parents if they’re so set on him having steak.
Post # 4
This is one reason why I dislike having menu options on an RSVP as opposed to taking orders, where a waiter could provide another child option, not including steak. I can’t believe someone did that!
Post # 5
I’d have whoever is closer to them call and say that you weren’t planning on paying for meals for kids under one , but the steaks should be big enough to share.
Post # 6
slayerprof : People are so rude but unfortunately your just going to have to roll your eyes at them and suck it up.
A nine month old can share with mum and dad or if they are that concerned as parents about the kid eating they can bring him something from home. All mums and dads that I know bring some type of food and snacks in their bags for their kids everywhere they go. They are beyond rude and I wonder if when they go out for dinner and they are picking up the cheque, if they order a separate dish for the 9 month old or if they feed the kid off their plates…. 😒
Another thing you could do is liaise with your venue caterer and see if you can get another kids option that isn’t fried for this kid or organise a mini plate of steak for the kid appropriate to his size. It will probably cost you the same or if not more than an adult plate but out of principal I’d do that to make a point because I’m cow that way I guess 😜
Post # 7
slayerprof : several months ago, I’d have thought this was absurd. Then my nephew turned 9 mo old and though he’s still BFing, he eats “real” food too – and A LOT of it! I’m actually shocked by how much food that kid puts away. Is he going to eat an entire steak? Of course not. But if i were mom and dad, I’d want more than just a normal serving size because otherwise, I’m not eating a full meal. Maybe see if your caterer can do a half-size kid portion? I understand not wanting to feed a kid junk food like chicken nuggets.
Post # 8
bibliophilacticbee : well that’s really the question – how big are the steaks? Ime, wedding portions tend to be on the smaller side compared with restaurunt portions. They might not really be meant for more than 1 adult.
Post # 9
I would absolutely call them up and let them know that the steak option is only for adults and they are welcome to share one of their steaks with their baby if they would like. Our wedding dinners were a pretty reasonable $55 per plate (for adults) and there is no way in hell I’d be paying 50 bucks for dinner for someone who hasn’t even been on the planet a full damn year.
I agree with PP saying you could also look into whether or not your caterer can prepare a smaller half portion but even then, I’d say not to put too much effort into it. If it becomes a whole thing, then it’s okay to say “Sorry, we can’t do that. Either the baby can eat part of your steak or he can have the kids’ option we will have available.” I get wanting to have certain food restrictions for your kids but then that means his parents are going to have to do the work of bringing meals for him or sharing their food with him. (I say this as a parent who has had certain restrictions on my son’s foods and so, I’ve had to pack up additional snacks and things that met my preferences for what he ate.) All that to say, this isn’t really your issue to address, it’s their preference for their baby and you can absolutely let them know the parameters that work for you.
Post # 10
Lol sounds like dad wants an extra steak!
Post # 11
At 9 months I’d much prefer to feed my son steak than chicken nuggets. But he’d be eating it from my plate! Even my 2.5 year old would survive with just my scraps!
Post # 12
So much entitlement!! They can bring their own baby food for their baby.
Post # 13
I assume the steaks will all be cooked to medium temperature, so is the mother going to be also requesting a well done steak for the baby? I would fall back on that and say you are sorry but the caterer is not comfortable feeding any sort of raw or undercooked meat to children under a certain age and given how catering works it will be too difficult to accommodate everyone with such preferences. And leave it at that.
If she persists, then I would tell her that you cannot make an exception for her baby when all the other children are getting a kids meal and that she is welcome to share her food with him or bring her own if she thinks that is best.
The mother is ridiculous imho.
Post # 14
As a Mum I’m surprised by this. I wouldn’t have even ordered my son a kids meal at that age. I’d have brought his lunch with us. Not least because the chances that your sit down meal would match with his lunch or tea time would be slim.
i like the suggestion above and blame the caterer not being comfy with doing uncooked meat for someone so young. You could talk to your caterer about offering new potatoes rather than chips with the kids meal. Or offer a fish finger option? Basically something not fried. I’m sure they can do that.
Post # 15
the parents should share their meal or bring food for their child.
i understand not wanting to give fried food to a 9m . but that child doesnt get their own plate.