(Closed) food etiquette- me vs. MIL

posted 8 years ago in Food
Post # 3
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think guests will definitely have eaten lunch before the 3 pm ceremony…I would only worry about the bridal party missing out due to getting ready and photos. Everyone else should be fine!

I’ve seen plenty of people switch to just wine or wine and beer for dinnertime. Your guests shouldn’t consider that rude.

Post # 4
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m sure people will have eaten by 3.  And they will probably plan ahead.  I may keep a stash of carrots or raisin packs if you are having any kids there.  Most parents will think ahead, but just is case they forget it.

Post # 5
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

i would say with your time frame i would only worry about dinner and some light food during cocktail hour may be nice (like what you have planned).  seems like you’re fine on the food front to me.

we’re only doing beer and wine during the cocktail hour and reception because that’s all we can afford.  we’re also closing the bar during the dinner hour which is standard practice we’re i’m from.  most guests don’t get up to get another drink while they’re eating.  

basically, i think you’re doing fine with your planning.  

Post # 6
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

As a guest, I would expect supper because your reception runs over supper time. But I would come fed lunch at three. If you serve too much for food during your cocktail hour, I would expect your guests won’t eat much for supper. I’m sure your guests will eat lunch or a snack before.


I don’t know enough about alcohol etiquette to answer your second question.

Post # 7
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

no way i wouldn’t miss lunch for a 3 oclock wedding.

Post # 8
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would think most people will eat before coming to the wedding. My only concern with only having fruit kebabs and cocktails and not serving the sushi/satay during the cocktail hour is  that some people might be real tipsy drinking cocktails and not eating any “real food” for an hour. (maybe not though?)

I think it’s totally fine to shut down the liquor after the cocktail hour and serve only beer/wine.

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