(Closed) Food preference as a guest…

posted 13 years ago in Food
Post # 3
310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I prefer buffet. But this is because I enjoy food so much that I am willing to get up and get my own if it means I can get what I want.

I do think a buffet is slightly less formal than a sitdown dinner can be, but it’s also a nice break for guests to get up and mingle. I have been to way too many weddings with horrible food, or gravy poured all over my meal that I think a buffet would be refreshing!


Post # 4
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Depends on the wedding but normally I feel buffets go with a more casual wedding…like if I went to a black tie wedding and there was a buffet, I would think it was unusual.

 All things being equal I usually prefer a plated dinner just cause if a buffett isn’t run right it can be a long wait and a bit of a hassle.

If you go the buffett route one thing I would watch our for is the warmth of the food…I’d say at about 90% of the buffetts I’ve had at weddings the food just hasn’t seemed warm enough.

Post # 5
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I prefer a buffet. I’ve had a lot of pretty disappointing plated dinners, but buffets usually provide enough of a variety of food that there’s some good stuff in there.

Post # 6
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

Hmmm depends on the style and size of the wedding

smaller wedding a little more casual and festive- then show me the buffet!

more elegant- larger wedding, then a sit down plated dinner is what I’d prefer.  But then again I’d be happy just to attend, so whatever you decide should be wonderful   🙂 

Post # 7
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

I’m doing a buffet, and I’m not totally fond of buffet meals but due to our outdoor location we have no choice.


  I’ve never had a bad plated meal, though every plated meal wedding I’ve attended has been at really expensive venues.  I think a lot of people do like buffet because they can pickand choose.  Just make sure you have the right flow because guests hate long lines.

Post # 8
11 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

BUFFET BABY!!! I have NEVER been to a wedding where I ended up liking the seated meal! It’s always cold, or rubbery, it NEVER seems worth what you know they paid for it!


Oh and don’t be afraid to just stick with good ole’ food that you both already love. Skip the fancy schmancy, get good and tasty. Your guests will love you (or at least I would if I was your guest!)

Post # 9
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Okay, I guess I’m the only one who prefers a sit down dinner.  I’m a little ocd, so when I go somewhere and there is a buffet, it is very difficult for me to eat.  I can usually handle the carving station, but most everything else is off limits for me.  I like the formality, yet relaxed feeling, of a sit down dinner.  I’ve been to quite a few weddings with great seated meals, the food was good without having to wait in line. 

I think it really is personal preference.

Post # 10
202 posts
Helper bee

definitely seated! i dislike the lines at buffets. i do like dessert buffets though!

Post # 11
184 posts
Blushing bee

buffet is gross.  who wants to wait in line for their food at a wedding? also you end up going up by table.. so if you’re the last table you could end up waiting quite a while… staring enviously at the other people.  a guest asked if i was having a buffet or seated dinner and she was upset that it wasn’t a buffet!  i thought that was rude.

Post # 12
12 posts
  • Wedding: March 2008

I am having a buffet.  I have never been to a wedding with a seated and plated meal.  Everyone just goes and gets food.  And if the line is long, then you just grab a drink and talk while you wait.

I think that maybe having a cocktail hour with passed trays can help with the idea that people may be very hungry when the buffet is opened and storm it.  It addition a buffet can look very nice, it all depends on the presentation of the food.

Post # 13
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m extremely picky, so you’d think I’d like buffets, but I’d still prefer seated dinners (this, even though I generally don’t like the food for a lot of them).  This is for a couple of reasons:  1) even on buffets, ther’s limited selections, and just like a plated dinner, you get to choose what you prefer and 2) I HATE having to carry my plate full of food, especially if there is also a glass of wine involved.  I’m petrified of dropping it all down my dress!  Maybe it’s just because I’m a klutz, but with everyone holding plates and others moving around (usually slightly intoxicated), it’s a disaster waiting to happen.  Thus, we’re going with a plated dinner at my wedding — only I’ll like this food because I can pick it out 🙂 .

Post # 14
1061 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I also prefer a sit down dinner! It’s more formal, and I really don’t like buffets for reasons that pps mentioned. Cold, rubbery food can happen with both a buffet and a plated meal — you just have to have a good caterer!

Post # 15
2695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

I like plated too! buffet food can get stale and overcooked just like plated can not be great.  If I am dressed up it is nice to be served and not  standing in line and jostling around for food.  But do what you want and can afford!

Post # 16
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m torn over buffet versus seated dinner too!  I like buffet b/c it’s more cost effective, thereby allowing you to provide more options.  Also, I want to have a casual wedding so a buffet seemed like the best way to get people to mingle and eat throughout the evening.  Also, I am so indecisive and really hated having to come up with the meal selections for the invitations so far in advance…

BUT, I am doing the plated dinner b/c (1) I hate having dry, semi-warm, or soggy food (and that’s what I usually see at buffets) and (2) I’m really afraid of my older relatives piling the food on their plate so that the guest who get in line later only have scraps (or we’ll have to end up paying more anyway b/c the caterer will have to make more food).  We did decide to also have passed "small bites" and a chees/cured meats station before dinner to encourage mingling (my ceremony and reception are at the same venue)…and I’m afraid my relatives are going to gorge themselves on these leaving scraps for our more polite guests…oh well…

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