(Closed) Food Question. Help!

posted 8 years ago in Food
  • poll: Menu?
    Heavy appetizers : (8 votes)
    16 %
    Full dinner : (43 votes)
    84 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would probably expect to have dinner provided.   I’m not sure if I would get full on just appetizers.

    Post # 4
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    If the reception starts at 7:30, yes I would be expecting dinner and I probably wouldn’t eat before. It’s fine if you don’t have it, but just make sure people are aware that dinner will not be served.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I say do a full dinner.  If I was a guest I would think that there would be dinner and not have eaten before hand.  Especially since its New Years and I’m sure your guest will be drinking throughout the night, you might want to feed them so no one is overly intoxicated from not have eaten a full dinner.

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I think if it were half an hour earlier, I would expect food, but my family always eats dinner at about 5 30 or 6 00.  But if you include the information either way on the invitation I think you’ll be fine.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    I disagree. I don’t think you necessarily need to serve dinner. Heavy appetizers would work well for a NYE bash. I think you need to make sure there’s enough so that people won’t get too drunk and make sure there’s food throughout the evening, and alert people to the fact that dinner won’t be served so they will eat before the ceremony. Are you guys going to party right into 2011?

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We usually don’t eat until 8 or even later on the weekend, and generally after 7 during the week.  So to eat before a 6:30 wedding would require eating WAY earlier than usual, to include ample time to get there on time as well.  I would probably be expecting dinner unless your invites made it really clear that, say “appetizers and drinks to follow.”  Whatever you do, make it clear, though.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I eat dinner pretty late so I think I would probably expect a full dinner. I agree with Entangled…whatever you do, just make it clear and you should be fine!

    Post # 11
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Personally, unless it is specified on the reception card that dinner (or any other meal) will be served, I always eat before I leave. I have honestly only attended a couple weddings that served a full meal, so it would never occur to me, based on my experiences, to expect anything different. Also keep in mind that a full meal is certainly not required and in many social circles is completely unheard of.

     

    That said, heavy appetizers served during a meal time is actually 3-4x the amount of food that you will be served with a plated meal. The minimum number of heavy appetizers per person during a meal time is 15-20+. For a non-meal time, that number drops to 3-4 per person. A plated meal is the equivalent of 6-8 pieces per person. By heavy appetizers, that means foods that are substantial such as coconut shrimp, eggrolls, carving stations, mozzarella sticks, chicken strips, etc. That does not include finger sandwiches, veggie platters, etc. which are not filling, even though most people insist that those are heavy appetizers and thus believe that you will be starving them if you say you are serving them during the dinner hour. If you are truly serving heavy appetizers during the dinner hour, just call it dinner, because they will be getting more food than with a regular plated meal. If anyone goes home hungry, that is their own fault.

    Post # 12
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Our wedding was at the same time and people expected a full meal.

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    7:30 is usually when we have dinner, so I would expect a full meal.  We are having a similar timeline and we wrote “dinner and dancing immediately to follow” on our invitation. 

    Post # 14
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    As a guest I would be expecting a full dinner and be counting on it (and not have eaten before hand)

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We’re date twins 🙂

    Here’s our evening: Ceremony at 7PM. Social hour directly after until 8:30: drinks and tray passed appetizers. Heavy hors d’oeuvres buffet at 8:30.

    We chose a heavy hors d’oeuvres buffet because it’ll allow people to grab small plates of food and move around and mingle. Our reception length is shorter than many, so we also didn’t want to have a formal dinner take up most of the reception.

    It depends on your own definition of heavy hors d’oeuvres…we’re planning to have plenty of food, just having a slightly different type of food and style of presenting it.

    As for cost, for what we’re doing at least, it’s more expensive than a sit down dinner and about the same price as a buffet, because the food is small and individually made.

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