(Closed) FOOLISHNESS..AND UTTERLY RIDICULOUS CRAP

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

OP, it’ll be fine. Let him have his fun 🙂

My husband and his groomsmen went with green vests and ties, and I was livid (our wedding colours were blue) but they were happiest in green, and it is his favourite colour. Though the men and women didn’t match, it wasn’t a big deal the day of. A month before our wedding, it was a huge deal, and it really didn’t need to be.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

But your dress is so gorgeous and formal! I think he should keep it classy…maybe let him change for the reception….after the first dance pictures ate taken.

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@Westwood:  +1

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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@Lovemelovemyhorses:  Have you not worked out yet that it is only the brides opinion/feelings that matter?

Post # 39
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

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@absolutely_tati:  I still don’t think it’s an issue. Your photos will be done. There will most likely be no more group shots with all the groomsmen. Literally no one will care except you. Meanwhile, it will make the man you are marrying happy. Do you really feel that having all the men in the wedding party wear the same vests throughout the reception is more important than your husband getting to express himself and HIS vision for his wedding? Like 
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@Lovemelovemyhorses said, if your Fiance was trying to tell you that you couldn’t wear the shoes or dress or veil or whatever the hell you want at your reception, every single bee would be telling you he is too controlling and doesn’t respect your individuality. You being the bride doesn’t magically make it ok to steamroll your partner. It’s his wedding too. 

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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@absolutely_tati:  If it really bothers you, perhaps you can compromise with him in that all the GMs wear the same colour and he can wear a different one to stand out? Or maybe come up with a colour palette together so all the vests would be complimentary in some way?

 

Worse comes to worse, I’d let him have his fun. Like the others have said, it’s his day too and it sounds like a pretty harmless and neat idea anyway.

 

Post # 41
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Your groom should get to decide what his guys wear. What if he told you what you and your BMs could wear?

Plus, I think it’s a good idea. The reception is for fun anyways. His personality should be included. I’m sure it will look great! 

Post # 42
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Helper bee

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@absolutely_tati:  I’m sorry but saying he cant do something isn’t giving him all the say he wants. Is he choosing what you and the bridesmaids wear? Maybe he wants to stand out and not look the same as the groomsmen? I think it’s an awesome idea, it’s unique and I think it will look amazing

Post # 43
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I see your problem – it could look really cartoony and I get it. Since they all have so many kicks could you ask that they keep it within your colors? (Eg shades of grey or blue or whatever your colors are) – I think that would be an amazing version of the “mismatched bridesmaids” trend!

Post # 44
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think your title was a bit ott. It’s his wedding too, find a way to compromise so gets is happy too. Make him happy 🙂

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

My immediate mental image was David Tennant as Dr Who (wears a pinstripe suit with converse). Which could actually look pretty cool. I think that you need to consider whether your husbands feelings are more or less important than your wedding “vision”. 

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

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@absolutely_tati:  I’m not sure how what I said is confusing. What I mean is that this is as much his day as yours, and if he was trying to tell you to wear shoes you hated that everyone on this site would be telling you that he is too controlling. Would you be ok with him choosing your shoes? I doubt it, considering you don’t even want him to choose his own shoes.

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