Post # 1
Anyone ever do this besides me? It must be some kind of social disorder because whenever I hang out in a large group and have to make conversation, somehow I end up insulting someone (not on purpose). I swear I’m really nice and don’t mean any harm!!
Just the other day I was in a large group of girlfriends/wives (our men were all groomsmen in a wedding) and I made a comment about how birthday party wars for 1 year olds are ridiculous. Of course I immediately realized one of the women has a 4 year old and she totally looked away from me. I felt so horrible, I wasn’t trying to insult anyone and wished I could take it back!
This happens quite often with me though, I definitely have a problem. Anyone else?
Post # 3
LOL! I do stuff like that all the time, although typically I somehow manage to turn it around and make some kind of self deprecating remark which makes people laugh and forget I just said something really stupid. If you can manage to turn it into a “Not that I would really do that, because I did, and wow, I don’t want to talk about how that turned out…” sarcastic remark, usually people won’t take what you said seriously. Make fun of yourself and all will be well 😉
Post # 4
Yup – happens all the time…even when I think before I talk! The recent worst was at my 10 year high school reunion. A girl who I wasn’t very close to in high school (and have not seen in person for 10 years) basically cornered me and started this long, very forced conversation. After a few minutes, I remembered seeing pictures of her and her husband repainting their house on Facebook months before, so I asked her how her house painting/remodeling was going, and what her husband did for work, since I couldn’t remember.
Well…she shuts right up and looked like she was going to cry, then said “ummm, yeah…I got divorced a few months ago” (!!!!!!) I felt like an idiot, so apologized, and she then says “no, it’s ok, not your fault. You’re just the first person to ask me how “my husband” is since the divorce, it’s weird.”
Post # 5
@gabrielleelise1981: OMG, Awkward!!!! Ugh I hate the cornering and forced conversation. Yeah and I’ve had several FIM moments around recent divorcees, they tend to LOVE to talk about it for some reason in a really somber tone!
@bakerella: My problem is I actually feel awkward backtracking because it usually makes the situation worse. I’m not suave enough to make light of it, so I usually just act like nothing happened..
Post # 6
I do too, I think half the time I’m completely unaware of it though. I grew up in a big household with lots of opinionated people so it’s a foreign idea to me to not say something just because someone will disagree with you. I’ve tried to get better about reading people and being more reserved around some people or trying to phrase things a little better. But when it comes down to it it just makes life boring so I can’t hold back too long from sharing ideas.