(Closed) Football is more important than anything.

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It depends… did he have a special trip planned to go to the Clemson/Auburn game or is it just like any other game?  Also, what is he like during football season?  Does he watch all day and not go anywhere or do anything else? 

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsPinkPeony: Is this guy a good friend of his? How many football games does he go to a year? Is it just one team he supports? Or lots of teams?

This does seem pretty excessive. Does he have any money riding on these games? Or is he just going to watch?

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Honestly, I don’t think this is too abnormal. My friends husbands best friend got married on a huge college game day – and even though this was his best friend’s wedding he was PISSED! My friend said her husband along with many other guests (male and female) were checking the game all throughout the wedding.

I’m guilty of thinking “aggg wish this event was on a different day so I could see the game!” 

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Honestly – this doesn’t seem abnormal to me at all.  Darling Husband and I refused to have a fall wedding because we didn’t want it to conflict with football games.  I’ve had friends plan their weddings around the home schedule of their favorite teams.  Darling Husband and I make a few trips a year from TX to GA to attend GT football games with friends (and GT isn’t anywhere near as good as Auburn!).

A couple we know planned their wedding for Homecoming last year (the wedding ended up being cancelled but that’s another story) and I know there were a good handful of people venting that they chose such a majorly conflicting date.

I’d cut him some slack.  Just because you’re not as in to football as he is doesn’t mean he’s at abnormal levels.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

LOL this is definitely not abnormal. At least not where I’m from. My fiance specifically said we would NOT be getting married during football season, and honestly, I wouldn’t even dare do it. Most of my guests would not come if it were during an Auburn or Alabama home football weekend.The only people who would be there would be very close friends and family, and even they would be checking the scores the entire time on their phones, haha.

Is your fiance an Auburn fan or a Clemson fan? If so, then I can definitely see why he’s really wanting to go to that game 🙂 But I definitely see your side too–if it’s his close friend, then he should want to be at the wedding. This is why they say men are from Mars and women are from Venus!

My fiance was in a wedding that fell on the Auburn/Arkansas game this past year. He was so mad that he couldn’t go, because he spends a lot of money on season tickets every year. But, since he was a groomsman, he didn’t have much choice. At the reception, though, EVERYBODY was glued to the TV in the bar area, and everybody missed the couple’s first dance, cake cutting, etc. 🙁

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I don’t think we’ll ever understand men and their sports, but this does seem a little excessive. We went to a friend’s wedding that was in the middle of the World Series in 2008 (when the Phillies won), and both my husband and I are HUGE fans. It’s nothing that you can’t get updates on during the wedding festivities.

There is a way to prioritize things, and he’s basically saying that a football game is more important than seeing his friend get married. That just wouldn’t fly with me.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

My friends would never plan a wedding on the same day as a Gator game in the fall 😉 I definitely appreciate the craziness around college football (this is why my wedding is in May). I would never skip a wedding over it though, I would probably just complain to my Fiance a bunch .

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

That seems pretty normal to me. Like others, we planned our wedding around football season. If it was your friend, I’d understand being upset but it’s his friend so it’s his decision. I also have to plan my weekends around when his games are on, but that’s just life. It’s something he loves, I can’t (nor do I want to) change that, so I find it easier to just accept it.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have planned my wedding around UT football.. I wanted a fall wedding & he didn’t want to miss any of the games so we are getting married on the BYE weekend. I know a girl who got married on opening weekend for UT football & that is where they spend every single anniversary weekend. When I first looked at the venue the lady asked me about the date & why I chose it, when I told her she laughed and said that was a common reason for a lot of the brides she talks to. It is aggravating that some guys think football is so important but that is just yet another thing we will never understand with them.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

When I saw the title of your post, I have to admit that my response was “yes, yes it is.”  My fiance really wanted a fall wedding and I am kind of annoyed that he talked me into it last winter/early spring… I kept hoping we could do August and skip the baseball playoffs and all of football season.

Honestly, there are not very many football games in a season. Especially for college.  If you follow a team, you really, really want to watch the games – any given week can knock a team out of the running entirely.  Sure, I have gone to other events during important games but I was not really mentally there… constantly checking my phone, seeing if there was a TV around, agitated and moody based on how much I knew about the score.

I think it’s pretty normal if you’re a football fan for fall weekends to be pretty football-dedicated.  I agree that it’s important to realize it’s already a game, but it’s pretty normal for it to be a high priority.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Is the game and wedding at the same time? Could he watch the game and then go to the wedding?

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

It’s not a question of normal and abnormal; what’s important here is that the two of you are on the same page. This isn’t an issue of right and wrong (like cheating, bad communication, etc); it’s an issue of preference, where each couple finds their own level of comfort (like video games, strip clubs, opposite sex friends, etc). 

I think it’s COMPLETELY reasonable for you to be upset that he chose football over seeing you after a long separation, a friend’s wedding, etc. A few of the ladies above are comfortable with accommodating their SOs’ football frenzy, and that’s great. Others would never put up with that type of obsession, and that’s also understandable. What you need to figure out is what YOU are happy with, and discuss this with Fiance to reach a middle ground.

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