Post # 1
I love my man, don’t get me wrong. We’ve been dating for over a year and a half and it’s been great. Last week though, I was feeling REALLY apathetic toward this whole idea of getting engaged, married, etc. I feel like it’s around me ALL the time, just not happening in my life..nor does it seem like it will be anytime soon.
Feeling this way almost made me pissed off enough to want to break up with him. Like every. single. little. thing about him was bothering me. I can’t really describe it..it was bad though. Then, of course, his little brother and fiancee came home for the weekend, which just made me even more pissed off about how un-engaged I was.
I think a lot of my problem is that we haven’t had enough “us” time lately. We hang out with tons of friends all the time..which is fine, I love our friends..but we don’t act like a couple AT ALL when we’re around them (which I prefer to being all lovey-dovey and alienating everyone.) It’s almost like I forget I have a boyfriend sometimes because we’ll kiss like once in the entire day when we’re around a bunch of people.
Then today, we did get to hang out just us and all of those unsure, insecure feelings went away. It was almost like magic. He even brought up that he had done the math on approximately how much it would cost us to buy a house, all the bills, etc.
I don’t really know where I was going with this..It was kinda like half-rant, half-epiphany..but either way I needed to sort through my feelings of guilt – of having actually considered that my life would be even remotely better without SO. He’s such a wonderful person, I just need to shut up and enjoy the moment..it’s just so hard to sometimes!
Post # 3
I have been with my FH for 5 years and I have had my moments, sometimes weeks, where he just bugs the crap out of me for no reason what so ever, it passes. I think we all have these moments and I am glad your passed. Sounds like he might be getting his ducks in a row also, fingers crossed 🙂
Post # 4
We had that experience a bit over 1.5 years ago only it went on for months and we were “arguing” a lot. Once I realized it was about not spending enough couple-time, told him so, and then changed our habits, everything improved! I think you’re dead on about the not spending enough alone time together.
Post # 5
I think everyone goes through this every once in a while. I think when you start to lose that feeling of intimacy, its easy to romanticize being single since you already feel so disconnected. Its great that you talked to him about it and I’m glad it made you feel better.
Since I’m in a LDR I start feeling like that every couple of months and then I absolutley know its time to make a trip to see him. So maybe if you start to feel that way again, you know its time for a date night or something. 🙂
Post # 6
@tksjewelry: I hear ya on the weeks part..The good thing is it passed! I’m sending engagement vibes your way!!
@LaurenK0105: I realized I was the one starting all the arguements..and it scared the crap out of me. I’m glad we both realized that all we needed was time together and that there isn’t a deeper rooted problem involved!
@Koala Bear: We actually planned a date night for Thursday! You’re spot on about losing that sense of intimacy..it’s so important not to let that happen! I can’t believe how much of a difference just a few hours reconnecting can make everything better!
Post # 7
I’ve felt like that too. I think it’s like a cycle thing.