Post # 1
This is something to make YOU guys feel better, while I continue to stew in frustration. LOL okay j/k when I really think about it…I’m not frustrated. I just SOOOO want to be my SO’s wife it’s ridiculous. The term BOYFRIEND doesn’t remotely describe the importance of his presence in my life. (Plus I’m freaking out about a particular date, but that is another post for another day)
He told me, on three separate occasions he was going to put a ring on it by the end of the year (2011) LOL. Okay so as the months passed, I would get my hopes up on every occasion, riiiight? Well…my birthday was amazing (Nov)…Totally expecting the Christmas proposal…Nope. New Years? Nope. Well…maybe he forgot lmao. Get this…HE SPENT $3200 DOLLARS ON HIS VEHICLE RIGHT BEFORE CHRISTMAS. (Okay…) So I’m definitely expecting it Jan-Feb-March for sure. IN MARCH HE JUST BOOKED A FIVE DAY FIVE NIGHT TRIP TO FL WITH HIS BUDDIES! (Okay)
So…the point of the story is. I’m not mad. I’m not frustrated per say. I’m just anxious!! Stop spending all of your money and just ask me to marry you because I’m reallllly anxious 😀 This has got to be a joke hahaha. Valentine’s Day is real cliche’ but we are both off that night, and the next day…so maybe it will happen then?? Although, I don’t think he’s purchased the ring yet, but you just never know. He’s a sneaky one. But LADIES! Don’t feel bad or mad or sad! Be happy your man isn’t spending billions of dollars on himself and you have no diamond -__- lmao
Post # 3
Wow, I would be livid, especially since he told you that it would be in 2011. This just reeks inconsideration 🙁 Good luck girlie…
Post # 4
Lol, I know. Inside I’m really NOT livid although I get irked at times. Our relationship is too awesome to start with the pressuring and nagging BUUUUUT I see where a lot of people would be pissed off. It was just lighthearted to maybe make some girls see their sitch as not too bad 🙂 haha, inconsideration is def the last thing on my mind with this. Thanks for the well wishes 🙂
Post # 5
@MissTX: I love cars but I spent money on her when it was necessary. (That’s how much I love my car.. I call her a She haha) Hopefully it was necessary and not just good looking additions =P Personally I think the trip with JUST his buddies is his little pre-bachelor getaway maybe? His way of sayin “Alright boys. The time has come and I’m prosposing to the love of my life.” Well I hope so anyway cause that would just be super sweet <3 and thank you for the uplifiting post!
I definitely know what you mean. Boyfriend just doesn’t fit the bill. Hence my username being Future Mrs. Souvannarath!! I can’t wait to be his wife either. To me getting married and having my name officially changed is super important to me and I want it sooner than later. I’ve had a lot of bad bad years and have been tired of picking myself up over and over again. My SO is the best thing that has happened to me and getting married is an OFFICIAL new chapter I’ve been waitng for all my life. A definite clean slate if you know what I mean! SO never told me when like yours did. Thanks to him I’m trying really hard to love the way I look. I’m not busty and I wish I was and I’m very self concious about it but he tells me everyday that I am absolutely perfect and am most beautiful with no make up (blush) I keep telling him that with the confidence I have now, and having a great man beside me, I won’t have to worry about guys approaching me at the club when it’s girls night. I now have the confidence to say “Nice try boys, I am definitely taken!” And he would say “All you need to do is flash the Ring.” Of course with that sentence…. it is super hard not to smile and wonder when it will happen? We’re moving to the city we love and we both have our friends there so we know our lifestyle is going to change dramatically. We’re moving March, our anniversary is June 26 so ALL I CAN DO IS PRAY IT WILL HAPPEN ON OUR ANNIVERSARY !!!!!!! But I don’t know hahahaha I’m dying as much as you are haha
Post # 6
@MissTX: You’re a better woman than I. I’d be pretty grumpy if he said we’d be engaged and then instead spent all his money on himself. I’d question his priorities. Good luck, hope he’s already got the ring and is just throwing you off the scent!
Post # 7
@MissTX: it’s such a bummer that you are still waiting for that proposal, especially after being given a timeline and having that timeline run out with nothing. I can definitely understand your frustration/anxiousness/whatever it is you want to call what you are feeling, haha. Sometimes when waiting is involved there isn’t a truly accurate term for exactly what we feel!
I am in a similar situation as you, so I understand exaclty how you are feeling. I’ve never been given a solid timeline (month, year, holiday, etc), my SO’s timeline when it comes up is always “When I have money”, so it’s extremely frustrating for me when he jumps at buying other things when he has extra money instead of putting it away for the ring. ESPECIALLY since I’ve told him I dont want an expensive ring and it would be so EASY for him to save up for it if he would just TRY! With his Christmas Bonus from work and other Christmas money he received he bought me a few nice small gifts (I asked that we not exchange large gifts, hoping he would put the extra money away for my ring), he bought his mom an iPad, and he bought audio equipment for his truck. Now he’s been talking about us taking another trip sometime in the next couple of months, and while he hasn’t mentioned it real recently the entire month of December all he could talk about was getting us a new tv
I’m really curious to see what he spends his tax return on when he gets it, I have a few hunches and none of those hunches are “engagement ring”. We’ll see! I’m not holding my breath though, haha!
It’s a rotten situation and I feel for ya girlie! But since he did give you a timeline of the end of 2011 (surely he can’t have forgotten he told you that…. right?) hopefully there is something planned just around the corner, and with all these other things he’s planning in front of your face you will be completely taken by surprise. Try to stay positive! 🙂
Post # 8
@MissTX: Wow I love your attitude!! Thanks for posting this. It’s a breath of fresh air to hear a woman say that she is PATIENTLY waiting for her ring and the proposal. I think we all get so caught up on rushing to be engaged…almost as if it’s a race (mainly b/c of facebook, tv, girlfriends). But if we look at the big picture we have the rest of our lives to be married so we should enjoy the moment at hand and allow our SO’s to plan things on their own time without the added pressure from us!
Post # 9
@Future_Mrs.Souvannarath: hahaha, that would be pretty amazing if this was his way to have a good ol bachelors weekend getaway! I never thought of it that way, lol. Oh my gosh, I hope it happens on your anniversary too! I think that is probably the best “occasion” for it to happen…mine came and went. But I got a nice 2carat diamond bracelet though!! lol
@irishphoenix: Yes! I was grumpy at first because I was just expecting it…when it actually happens I’m so going to be like “WTF U SAID BEFORE THE END OF THE YEAR!!!” He has a memory like an elephant so I’m hoping he did this on purpose. To throw me off then to surprise the hell out of me lmao. We shallllll see 🙂
@MisfitPrincess: Seriously, I don’t see how he could’ve forgotten, but the tax return thing is funny. I too, have high hopes for that tax return. Hopefully our men will be smart and DO IT! Money can NOT be an excuse when you just got a bunch of free money in the mail 🙂 lol!
@dutchessbee: oh thank you 🙂 that’s really sweet. It’s definitely a race…lol everytime i see a friend of mine get engaged I get a twinge of anxiety and jealousness inside. But the reason I’m so positive and PATIENT…is because we are so secure. Our relationship is golden in my eyes and if he doesn’t propose until next Christmas…I would be fine with it. As long as I know it’s coming! I already have the man, I just really want to show off some amazing bling…that’s not too much to ask, is it?? 😉
Post # 10
And all I know is…when I see that man get on his knee…it will be the BIGGEST EMOTIONAL RELEASE of the universe!!!!!!!!!! Lol. I’m such a girl but I can’t wait to feel the moment when it happens <3
Post # 11
Look at you rock girl. What an awesome response. You are much more patient than most.
Post # 12
Lol you’re a more patient girl than me – if I was told I’d be engaged by the end of 2011 and I wasn’t and SO didn’t give me a damn good reason, I’d be single by now lol (mine set a dealine of 2 years for us to get engaged, if it goes to two years and one day then I’m asking why, no good reason? then seeya!!!)