Post # 1
We had to say goodbye to our very elderly beautiful cat last week. We were totally focused on his different health problems, meds, breathing, fortnightly vet visits etc for months and months…he was the centre of our universe so we feel bereft. I wailed in the shower whilst Darling Husband ended up ill from stress after he was put to sleep because Darling Husband had him for 19 years
I don’t like our flat anymore, it’s still cosy and familiar and colourful but there is a huge gap now that our little one has passed.
This has got me thinking about the future and future pets. Some bees may understand this, others might not.
I would like a mum/kitten duo to complete our family. Sadly Darling Husband and I aren’t having kids due to health problems so doting on our cats for the next 15-20 years feels right for me. I really enjoy chanelling my maternal side that way, that’s one of the reasons why Darling Husband and I always went extra lengths for our cat.
But I’m worried about how cats get hit on the road. What can be done to avoid this? Are house cats a good idea? I’ve read articles on pros and cons for both. Is it disrespectful to get a new pet fairly soon? Is a mum/kitten combo a good idea?
Sorry I have so many questions…I would love to hear real life experiences of getting a new pet after a loss. Thank you! (please be gentle I’m still very much 💔)
Post # 2
Many people will argue that cats should solely be house cats. I’ve had both inside and inside/outside cats. My cat who was an inside cat had no desire to go outside. She was perfectly content to sit on the window ledge and look outside, but that was it.
Post # 3
I would never let my cat outside and take the chance on him getting hurt. It’s simple–if you don’t want them getting hit, don’t let them outside. I’m confused at your question. There’s no valid reason to let cats outside when they’re meant to be your pet. I have friends who live in rural areas that have indoor/outdoor cats, and I’m just dreading the day that one of them tells me their cat has been hit by a car, hurt by another animal, or has disappeared and never comes home.
Post # 4
Tisa85 : When our dear pets leave us the hope that we use the opportunity to open our homes and hearts to another looking for their forever home. Getting a new cat soon isn’t a bad idea. I lost my cat to sudden cardiac failure and adopted another after a month. I keep both my cats inside as I live in the city and there are TONS of factors that play against a city cat.
Post # 5
I have indoor cats and they’re happy enough to stay inside – it’s got to be better than letting them get hit by a car as we are close to a main road. I’m so sorry you lost your cat, I can’t imagine how hard that must be for you both.
Post # 6
I’ve always had indoor/outdoor cats because they were rescues who had lived outside and would wail at the door all the time and try to escape. We lived in a very suburban neighborhood on a very non-busy street and always made sure the cats were at night. We never had a problem but of course there are risks. I think if you want to have an indoor only cat you should get a kitten. You may want to look at siblings especially if adopting. There is no right time to get a new pet after a loss but I’m sure you’ll find the perfect fit for your family when the time is right!
Post # 7
Outdoor cats wreak havoc on natural environments. Bird, small animal, etc. populations are decimated by domesticated cats. Please consider keeping you cat exclusiely indoors.
I don’t have familiarity with mom/kitten combos, but I do know that it’s beneficial to keep two cats so they keep each other company. I don’t at all think it’s disrespectful – I think it’s a wonderful thing to give a loving home to a pet!
Post # 8
Dragonfly715 : I’m from the UK where the vast majority of cats are outdoor cats even in the city.
Also many people think it’s cruel to keep pets permanently indoors. That’s why I asked for opinions on both.
Post # 9
I have indoor cats. The one was a stray and has less than zero interest in the outdoors beacuse I think just thinking about it gives him PTSD…doesn’t even really like staring out the window. The other I’ve had since she was 1. She spends half her time watching birds out the window, but seems perfectly content to remain inside. I’m sure if I let her out she would be happy to explore but she seems a very happy cat with her indoor life.
I would never let my cats outside because I live in an urban-ish area. Even if I didn’t, I think I’d just be worried sick every time I let them out that something would happen to them.
Post # 10
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My cat is an indoor cat. There are a lot of other cats loose in my neighborhood, as well as other animals he could get into fights with so I’d rather not take the risk letting him out. And of course I don’t want him to get hit by a car either.
I had to put down one of my cats a year ago and I haven’t had it in me to get another one yet. Mostly concerned about how my remaining cat would react to a new cat. But I think eventually I’d like another cat. It’s nice to give at least one cat a happy life. I don’t think it’s too soon for you. And a mother/baby combo can be a fine idea.
Post # 11
Why would it be cruel to keep cats indoors? I think it’s more cruel to let them roam around with hundreds of hidden dangers lurking at every turn. Even cats that have been outside will get used to being inside after a while if you just keep them in. My cat was probably a year or two old when he showed up on my doorstep as a stray. Yes, he wailed at the door for a few months after I took him in, but it didn’t last long, and 14 years later I still have a cat that I haven’t had to pick up and bury after being splatted on the pavement by a minivan.
Post # 12
Our kitty had been exclusively indoors from the time we’ve gotten her in august. However, in the last couple of weeks she has been obsessed with going outside. We finally relented and let her out on occasion. She definitely seems a lot happier now. At first I didn’t want to let her out because I was worried about dogs and other cats hurting her, but she hasn’t had any problems yet. I dont think I would be comfortable letting her out overnight ot while we are gone though. We are in the middle of the country with no neighbors though so I would imagine it would be different in a city or close to a lot of roads.
Post # 13
Tisa85 : That’s interesting about the UK and outdoor cats! I’m the type of person who would just worry sick if my cats didn’t come back home. Was it a car? Poison? A cayote? Are they trapped in something or hurt and dying alone without comfort/love? Sorry to be a downer but that’s seriously how I’d feel. I was so fortunate to be able to see my little boy over the rainbow bridge in safety and comfort. I’d be too afraid of what could happen outdoors.
Post # 14
somathemagical : I’m 31 and I only found out about house cats this year! That’s how common it is for cats to spend time outside here.
But yeah I’m scared and after going through the hell of saying good bye I don’t fancy my new cat getting hurt either…
Post # 15
Tisa85 : I had two cats. One when I was a kid. She would be inside in winter and during summer we would take her to the country house for 3 months where she would run outside freely. She would have to go to a vet and take worm medication when back. It wa since to keep her outside in her natural environment where she could hunt (cause that is what cats are supposed to do).
My second cat is indoors only. We live in a city so it’s not an option to let her outside. She is fine with it and has no interest outdoors