(Closed) For all the married Bee’s – Who’s a bit saddened the wedding is over?

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Nope. I was happy with our wedding and glad to be married and get back into the routine. πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I will be married for 1 year in Oct! Woot! And I still miss my wedding planning days πŸ™‚ And to get my fix, I still occasionally come on here, lol!

I got really into planning and really into weddings during my engagement; so afterwards I found myself still looking & thinking about weddings. This is ironic b/c before my engagement, I didn’t think about weddings at all! But, even a year later, I still love watching wedding shows, reading wedding blogs and mags. So I was a little sad about my wedding being over.

It sounds like my feelings are similar to yours, since you stated life feels the same. And I also felt the same way initially, until after we started going out with our friends; for some reason going out as a married couple is so much more fun then before! Even when we go out on dates, grocery shopping, whatever; sometimes I stop and think “oh hes my husband” “I’m on a date with my husband” and act like a giddy 10 year old. I know this is the newlywed love birds thing; but I’m loving it!!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My wedding was Aug 21 and I am a little sad now that its over.  It did seem to go by so fast, especially considering all the planning that went into it.  I don’t want to go back to the planning stages, but I do wish I relive the wedding. 

I was also a bit let down by how quickly things returned to normal.  When my husband and I get together with family and friends all I want to do is talk about the wedding.  I kind of expected everyone to still be raving about how much they loved our wedding, but really, they’ve barely mentioned it.  I just wanted more recognition for my efforts.  Then last weekend I was with my husband and some friends and we saw a wedding party taking pictures in a park. My friends were in love with the bride’s dress and wouldn’t stop talking about it.  I felt really sad because it looked nothing like my wedding dress, and they didn’t go on and on about my dress like they did this random persons.

Anyways, I think my spirits will be lifted when we get the professional wedding pictures and video back.  It will make everything seem worthwhile when I get to see it all in front of me.  And I’m really excited to show pictures to friends and family members who couldn’t make it to the wedding.  Maybe then I will get the compliments on my wedding and dress that I crave! 

 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Did you go on a honeymoon? The reason I ask is because that really helped me after we got married. For the couple of days or so I was a little sad and had anxiety over the things I would have done different. But being away for a couple of weeks and just enjoying some time with my new husband was wonderful. Because now that we are back our routine is right back to the way it was.

I’m sure once you get your pictures back and you start talking to people and keep hearing how wonderful your wedding is your spirits will be lifted.

Do you have any hobbies that you would like to get back to or anything you would enjoy doing that you didn’t have time for with the wedding planning? I made plans with girlfriends etc. to feel like I have my life back and also am now reading home decorating magazines.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Although I’m not married yet, I do have an idea!

If it’s weddings in general that you can’t get out of your mind, have you thought about offering some kind of service to brides?  Now that you can focus on other’s weddings as opposed to your own, you could be a big help to others still planning.  Maybe you’re an organized person and could become a wedding planner?  Or, maybe you’re really crafty and could open up an etsy shop selling wedding goodies?

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I totally understand this. Just like Roxy821 I had a couple moments of anxiety after the wedding but then it went away. Yes, it is weird to come back to normal everyday life, but its also really nice. It is nice not to have to make decisions left and right and constantly tell people things and think about this big party with an impending deadline that you want to be absolutely perfect!!! Have you gone to the newlyweds board yet? There are a couple posts on there about what you would have done differently or what you regret and I know it helped me to post there because it seems like a lot of us newlyweds have similar feelings.

What has been helping me is looking at my professional pictures (not every day, but a few times a week), writing thank you notes, writing in my journal about my memories from that day and also about married life and taking on new projects or planning new things. We just painted some of our house and redecorated our living room. This was our first married project together and it was a lot of fun!

Youll be okay! Do a recap post on here – a detailed one with tidbits about your day AND pictures – I bet that will help too! I plan to do one soon and I cant wait to do it because I would always read the recaps of previous brides and it helped me so much! Good luck!!!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Linds1769: First of all Im jealous that you get to go on vacation in December!! Second of all, I still DVR and On Demand all wedding shows. I invited my Maid/Matron of Honor to come over tonight and we are planning to watch all 10 episodes of SYTTD Atlanta!!! My husband thinks Im ridiculous! !

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Linds1769: Remodeling is awesome! Im jealous! I wish we could do that but we rent a townhouse right now so that wouldnt be possible. Also, the newlyweds board is under the Nesting boards if you cant find it! And you are  very welcome! Every day gets better I promise!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Linds1769: Oh I will! A bottle of wine in our new wine chiller + my best friend + SYTTD = total relaxation and enjoyment hahah

I swear one day I am going to watch the show while sitting in my dress….I think thats what I want back the most – another chance to wear that beauty!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Just this last week i have become “sad”…so much so that I contacted my photographer and asked if we could take some more wedding pics (crazy?!!) (I am missing some great shots and just want to do some casual ones…) But yeah…”sad” is the best word…and i am even planning two other weddings but sitll miss my own…..Cry

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Baileyh: And you even did a Real Budgets and we got to see your wedding pics and you were featured on the blog!! πŸ™ Sorry you are feeling that way! But Im pretty sure I saw on the newlyweds board that you and your husband will be trying next year for a baby – is that correct? Thats exciting!!!! Hows the wedding planning business going? How did you get your clients?

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