I need you help… I still ping over my ex boyfriend (who I dumped ) I know he was not the best for me and we would have divorced 100% if we married yet I still blame myself for thinking I should have pandered to him and did what he says. After we broke up we dated off and on again and the behaviour got worse.
-we never went on trips either far away or day trips. In the 3 years we dated, we only went on one road trip and that was a 40 minute drive from our city. That’s it To me travelling is important! even a drive to another close beach is good with me! Doens’t have to be expensive!
-the only dates he wanted to do was sit in his car or walk in the park.
-He wouldn’t spend Christmas with me or Christmas eve… instead was volunteering because as he said, he purposely didn’t want to see me
– he would promise to take me out for a big surpise on my bday. I touch base with him, then he tells me he has other plans and promises to take me out the following week. On that rescheduled date, he texts me asking what I am doing and saying he was at home enjoying a dinner. I feel like he was doing that to tease me. He had done that to me before as well when my house had not water or electricity for 4 days, he didn’t offer for me to come over, instead, he texted me saying he was enjoying dinner at his place. I even had coworkers saying I could come over and shower at their places, but my own boyfriend didn’t offer. He said I was being a princess and that other people had it worse. This was in the middle of a -30 Cel Winter!
-he told me why I am buying makeup. Even though I buy makeup like once or twice a year tops for around $ 100. – he accused me of slashing someone’s tires and had me on tape which is absolutely untrue. – he kept comparing me to my friends and saying how they are better than me
-When I aws sexually harrassed he told me I was “asking for it” and that “i should enjoy it”
-when I was shoved on the subway platform (big city, so public transit gets crowded… one dy some man just randomly shoved me with intent to hurt me, this was not a mistake), he told me “i was asking for it”
-he told me I had to “earn” presents and dinner. That he counldn’t send me flowers or presents because I was expecting it and it would ruin the surprise.
-he told me he was designing me an engagement ring, then told me it was a joke
-he lied to me all the time
– he brought out the worst in me… my coworkers would know when I went out with him because I would come into work gruchy the next day.
-he would never go window shopping with me
Decisions were always on his terms. If we agreed to something, he would say he would do it, but turn around and do it his way
He was cheap in that he wore raggy clothes and shoes
–he would only see me after 8pm
-worse of all, after we broke up, he infiltrated my group of friends and created a huge rift between myself and my best friend which we are no longer on speaking terms… he has obviously feed her horrible lies so bad that she is no longer speaking to me and I have been disinvited to her wedding and can no longer be her bridesmaid 🙁 It hurts a lot! Yet he is attending the wedding
– also we never celebrated anniversaries… I had to do the planning and beg him.. .one year he returned from a work trip and didn’t even see me, instead ran off to someon’s bday party instead of seeing me and celebrating anniversary
-even though I had enough of kissing or whatever, he would make me continue L Others guys stop when I ask them to do so
-I was a happy cheerful person prior to dating him… while with him, I was miserable and angry… people comment that I am happier now… more people approach now too.
Was I being too unreasonable?