Post # 1
Ladies, I may not be engaged yet but one of the most important details of my wedding is going to be my ceremony. I have started searching for alternatives to the unity candle or the sand ceremony because the two of them just don’t seem to fit my SO and I. I was only really finding hand fasting and the wine box so I continued looking because my SO doesn’t really enjoy those either. The other 2 I have found I think other women may enjoy as wel.
I have now fallen in love with the Loving Cup Ceremony. I think this is such a beautiful description and I know it’s similar to a wine ceremony but I guess I needed to see the way it would be worded to understand how meaningful it would be.
I also really like the 13 gold coins ceremony. A small excerpt about it. “ The symbolism, which may be explained by the officiant, is that the Groom recognizes his responsibility as a provider, and pledges his ability to support and care for her. Acceptance by the bride means taking that trust and confidence unconditionally with total dedication and prudence. The number 13 represents Christ and his 12 disciples.” I know that some of you may not like this because it considers the man the provider but I think it could be adapted or reworded so that the two of you will provide for your family and you both accept the responsibility as well as trust in the other to do so as well.
I saw this as well but I am slightly nervous how it would turn out. “We wanted to do something food related since we both love to cook and eat and food has played a big role in our relationship. I heard about this idea for having three glasses at the alter. One has hot sauce in it, one has vinegar, and one has honey. They represent the three parts of a relationship – the hot and spicy times, the bitter times, and the sweet times. A good marriage is a mix of all three. The bride and groom mix them together, and then drink from the cup. Being cooks we are going to play with the ingredients and amounts beforehand to make sure we end up with something that is good to sip! We want marriage to be represented by something that is good in the end, not gross.”
I know I’ve struggled to find something beyond some of the more standard things now so I thought I would share in the case that someone was looking for some more information or other options.
Post # 3
l feel like everyone on the be is ignoring me
Post # 4
I’m not ignoring you!! I am also trying to think of good ways to involve our guests in our ceremony. It is non-religious, and I want us to have more than just the guests saying ‘we will’ if asked if they support our marriage. We’re thinking ring blessings maybe but Fiance doesn’t really like that. The one with the sauces in different glasses is a cool idea – I’ve never heard it before! I will suggest it.
But I can’t think of any other suggestions – sorry!!
Post # 5
We also didn’t want to do the unty candle or sand ceremonies.
Our minister suggested a water ceremony and a rock ceremony. I have not seen either of them done before but we really love the messages that they convey.
Each guest has been given a small polished stone upon arriving.
Before you met, your lives were on different paths with different destinations. But love has brought you together and joined these separate paths into one. Each one of your friends and family here today have been given a small polished stone that represents their unique individuality and their presence at your wedding today. You also each have a stone of your own that symbolizes your previous separate lives, separate sets of friends, separate families and the different life’s journeys you once traveled.
I will now ask that everyone please take out the stone you have been given and pause to make a wish or blessing for happiness and good will for the couple for the future of their marriage.
Everyone pauses to make their wish.
Now, we will collect the stones and the couple will then add their individual stones to the container as well.
The couple adds their stones to the container.
With the combining of these stones, you have now symbolically joined your once separate lives. As the stones have been combined with love into one container, so now are your friends and family joined, through you, into one. And your once solitary life’s paths are also now one. All that was once separate is now shared, and in this sharing you both will find new strength and joy as together you forge a new life’s path and destination.
The water ceremony was written expecially for us- message me if you want the wording
Post # 6
@londongal: pick of few of your guest to read readings that you or them have picked out. It is a nice way to get more people involved.
Post # 7
We had a wine box ceremony because we felt like everyone we knew had already done the sand thing, and being at the beach, it’s definitely overdone here! PurpleUnicorn has pictures of her beautiful wine box ceremony that totally inspired me, but you can also just Google “wine box ceremony” and the directions will come up.
Post # 8
@MsBrooklynA: You know what really would throw a monkey wrench in the wine cup ceremony? Finding out a future in law has herpes. Sorry- it was just the first thing that came to mind! I think i’d do it but only share the cup with my Fiance, who’s cooties I already caught ;-P
On a more serious note I have NO idea what we’re going to do for our ceremony…I like the winebox idea too!
Post # 9
I love me some Loving Cup (the song), but I read the linked page and it seems so close to communion.
Post # 10
@Jeannine @ Small Chic: haha that’s a good point I hadn’t even thought of.
Post # 11
I really want to do a Salt Covenant but still working on getting my fiance to agree. =)
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
OBB did a greta post on alternatives a while ago.
Post # 13
@murmur:the funny part is that my fils do have it. or at least my fmil. its the coldsore kind. my so has it as well. ive been sharing with him for years and never caught it so im not worried.
Post # 14
@MsBrooklynA: I am doing the Love Letter and Wine Box Ceremony