(Closed) For Bees who paid for their own Rehersal dinner – how did you handle alcohol

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

talk to the restaurant. i’m sure you can set up a menu where everyone gets iced tea or soda, or maybe even one glass of wine with their meal (paid for by you), and they can order any additional drinks themselves on separate tabs.

i would print menus (or the restaurant might do it) explaining just that.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We paid for non-alcoholic drinks and there was a bar in the restaurant.  My rehearsal was a lunch, so that cut down on the expectation for alcohol.  There was a handful of that went to the bar to get a drink. Fine by me.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We had ours in a hospitality suite of the hotel we were all staying at, so we had to provide our own alcohol which was great.  We just had wine and beer and it work out well.

If we had it in a restaurant, we probably would’ve paid for one round and then let our guests pay for more drinks if they wanted more.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We’re having ours in the church hall.  No alcohol allowed.  Makes life much easier.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

For us it was all family plus 2 really good friends (MOH & BM) so it was no biggie. We just ordered off the menu and let everyone ordered whatever they wanted.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re setting a cap on the bar and letting everyone pay for their own after that. I don’t think everyone is going to get wasted at the dinner so I’m not concerned about going over the limit we’ve set.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

What sort of venue is your dinner at? Their rules might determine what you have to do.

Ours was at a private house for about 30 people. I bought a case of red wine, a couple bottles of white wine and 3 12-packs of beer as well as 1 large bottle of Bombay Sapphire gin and the makings for gin and tonics. Was less than $200 and we had some alcohol left over!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We had an open bar. People got whatever they wanted! We paid the tab at the end of the night (we had a private lounge at a sushi restaurant)

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

We’re have 26 people at our Rehearsal Dinner and none of them are big drinkers so I’m really not too concerned. I plan to make a menu for food and we’re going to give them an option of 3-4 mid-range wines and 3-4 mid-range beers + domestics and just let people order what they will. 

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I agree with LGenz.  If you have an open bar, you can set a bar tab limit. In our case, we’re paying up to an X amount of dollars. When the tab gets close to that limit, if it does at all, then the restaurant owner will let me know and ask me if I want to either close it at the agreed amount or set a new max limit. The max limit we chose will cover 1.5 drinks/guest, which should be sufficient for just dinner. 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

the alcohol ceiling is a good idea- or instead of having people order drinks, you can just have the waiters serve wine with dinner and keep it at that.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We struggled with keeping the costs down for our 40-ish person dinner.  We talked to three restaurants and they all offered at least a few options – full open bar, open bar with a cap, just wine & beer, or just cash bar.

We decided to go with the wine & beer option.  Guests could still pay cash for cocktails if they wanted.  I loved our “dinner” – it was in a private lounge area at a bar/club, and it was all heavy hors d’oeuvres.  Very casual and fun.  But still pretty damn expensive.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

On the menu we created, we put includes unlimited wine, beer, soda, coffee – For the liquor, people could have ordered if they wanted to. Thats how we set it up with the restaurant.  I thought it was going to get out of hand (given drunken friends), but most people actually stuck to the beer and wine.

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