(Closed) For bees who've gone through a divorce…Please tell me it gets easier

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

3 weeks before Christmas in 2006, my husband of 8 years called me and said he wasn’t coming home to me and our three year old daughter.  He left me for another woman.  I was devastated, and if not for our daughter I would not have been able to go on.  But I met a wonderful man and married him in 2010 and we had a daughter in 2011.  My life did not turn out like I had thought it was going to- but I am very happy now.  I wish you well- it will surely get better.

Post # 32
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707 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

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Laurencw:  I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. Be thankful you’re getting out now. I know you feel like the whole world is crashing down, but everything will get better.

My Mother-In-Law left DHs father 6 years ago. She wasn’t allowed to work outside the home and he controlled the money. He treated her like crap. When she left him, she wasn’t working (had just been laid off). She ended up meeting an amazing man who encouraged her to go to school. She got her degree and found a job. She’s been married for almost 2 years to a man who is perfect for her.

Take care of you. You will be so happy when you are completely free from this monster. Good luck sweetheart. 

Post # 33
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4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I just wanted to say how brave you are. There are so many whomen who come to this forum and vent about downright terrifying relationship problems and sound like they’ll never leave for whatever reason..

Starting over may be hard, but its not impossible. You’re clearly a strong person for being able to walk away, and I would venture to say you’ll surprise yourself by how resilient you really are.

Post # 34
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232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard

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Laurencw:  I have not been divorced, but I wanted to say that I think you are very brave and smart to make this decision to put yourself in a better situaiton. You deserve to feel safe and happy.

You can do it. Hugs.

Post # 35
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

 

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Laurencw:  It does get easier. I had to start over at 38. Not what I ever imagined for myself, but I’m better off now, and SO much happier! You will be too. Give yourself time to grieve, and then close that door.

Post # 36
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Sugar bee

It gets sooooooooooo much better and this is coming from a woman who walked away while pregnant AND with a toddler – doesnt get harder than that.

But having my peace of mind? There is absolutely no price for PEACE. OMG…I go home and it’s me and the kids (he sees them every other weekend) and then they go to bed and it’s just…peace…no arguing, no disrespecting, no wondering where he is or what he is doing because he was untrustworthy…

It GETS easier, trust me. Divorce is like a death. No matter if the marriage was good or bad, it still sucks because it is extremely stressful and I would not wish that on anyone.  But yeah, best thing I could have done.

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