Post # 31
3 weeks before Christmas in 2006, my husband of 8 years called me and said he wasn’t coming home to me and our three year old daughter. He left me for another woman. I was devastated, and if not for our daughter I would not have been able to go on. But I met a wonderful man and married him in 2010 and we had a daughter in 2011. My life did not turn out like I had thought it was going to- but I am very happy now. I wish you well- it will surely get better.
Post # 32
I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. Be thankful you’re getting out now. I know you feel like the whole world is crashing down, but everything will get better.
My Mother-In-Law left DHs father 6 years ago. She wasn’t allowed to work outside the home and he controlled the money. He treated her like crap. When she left him, she wasn’t working (had just been laid off). She ended up meeting an amazing man who encouraged her to go to school. She got her degree and found a job. She’s been married for almost 2 years to a man who is perfect for her.
Take care of you. You will be so happy when you are completely free from this monster. Good luck sweetheart.
Post # 33
I just wanted to say how brave you are. There are so many whomen who come to this forum and vent about downright terrifying relationship problems and sound like they’ll never leave for whatever reason..
Starting over may be hard, but its not impossible. You’re clearly a strong person for being able to walk away, and I would venture to say you’ll surprise yourself by how resilient you really are.
Post # 34
- Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard
I have not been divorced, but I wanted to say that I think you are very brave and smart to make this decision to put yourself in a better situaiton. You deserve to feel safe and happy.
You can do it. Hugs.
Post # 35
It does get easier. I had to start over at 38. Not what I ever imagined for myself, but I’m better off now, and SO much happier! You will be too. Give yourself time to grieve, and then close that door.
Post # 36
It gets sooooooooooo much better and this is coming from a woman who walked away while pregnant AND with a toddler – doesnt get harder than that.
But having my peace of mind? There is absolutely no price for PEACE. OMG…I go home and it’s me and the kids (he sees them every other weekend) and then they go to bed and it’s just…peace…no arguing, no disrespecting, no wondering where he is or what he is doing because he was untrustworthy…
It GETS easier, trust me. Divorce is like a death. No matter if the marriage was good or bad, it still sucks because it is extremely stressful and I would not wish that on anyone. But yeah, best thing I could have done.
Post # 37
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. All I can think right now is this is not how it was supposed to go. I’m glad everything worked out for you!
Thank you fo sharing! I’m grateful I’m not wasting anymore time on him!
Thank you! I don’t always feel brave but I know how easily I could have stayed and I’m glad I mustered up the courage!
Congrats on finding a loving man! I can’t wait to start over!
I completely understand the wanting peace thing! It is so nice not to worry about who he’ll be when he walks through the door at night.