Post # 1
We’ve been married for 5 days! But… how do you deal when it comes to the "for worse" part? We’re already having issues… which were there before hand and had been worked on but they are back again… basically money and communication issues. For now I just try to remind myself that we will work it out. And I cheer myself up by looking at our pictures that our amazing photographers are getting to us!
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Post # 3
Your pics are great =]. I love your hair!!
Counseling. Those issues won’t magically go away. You are young and should get some guidance on how to deal with money and communication and how to deal as you get older, start working, have more money, finish college, etc. A lot of money/communication issues will come up in the next few years; it’d behoove you to sit down with someone and definitely work these out.
Post # 4
You need to sit down together an figure out a way that you guys will deal with your issues! You guys are really young so many many more issues are going to come your way!
Post # 5
Young or old, money is hard for many couples. Especially depending on how you were dealing with it pre- and post- wedding. I agree that counselling is good to get you guys on the same page, especially if you’re also having communication problems. You need to sit down, talk about the money and find a solution that works for you.
Post # 6
In addition to counseling, it might be worthwhile to sit down with a financial advisor and hash out the details. It’s hard to be mad about money when you have a plan that you are sticking to! We planned with ours how much money to save each month, which accounts bills were coming out of, and what to do with the mortgage and student loan debt. There’s never any debate because we know just what we’re doing, and how much discretionary money we can spend each month.
We also have a competition to see who can save the most each month (above our already designated savings). It’s working for us!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - Family Lake House
OMG. I. LOVE. Your. Hair.
Good luck, thigs will work out if you talk things through. If they don’t, then I suggest counseling.
Post # 8
Yeah, good question. I just put a post up about my money/communication issues with my Fiance, its getting worse today and I’m so fed up. But he’s defensive and its escalating and right now I wanna punch him in the gut. PS. that won’t help lol.
I think counseling will be a good tool. The issues won’t resolve themselves and sometimes an unbiased mediator is necessary to be sure the lines of communication aren’t getting crossed. Ugh, its tough. Money is scary because its ruined marriages.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the comments ladies. I’m dying to talk budget with him, and even have written down a bunch of things. I know there are some people in our lives who would be willing to talk with us about it, but me being a student and having literally no income is not helping the situation!
Thanks for all the nice comments on the pictures too. I have a massive amount of hair, so half of it is pulled up into a bun type thing and the rest is left down. My hairdresser and I basically made it up, and I loved it! That’s my grandpa helping hubby with his tie, and I love it!
Post # 10
Here’s a few more photos, because I just can’t help myself!
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Post # 11
oh that’s so cute! Well, even if you dont have an income, you’re a student, so you’re working on it =]. You still get to help determine the “family” budget. Hopefully he’s not too defensive or too “i’m a man, i don’t need help” about it. I know guys can get like that =]. Good luck!
Post # 12
Your pictures are amazing & I love your hair!!
I just thought I’d tell you that-I don’t really have any advice 🙁 sorry!
Post # 13
I love your hair as well, so beautiful. As for the problems, yes you have to work on them, but yes there will always be “better” and “worse” times. It’s funny because our six-month engagement period was the most trying time of our ENTIRE relationship. Then once the wedding happened, I feel like so many issues just seemed to disappear. Sorry, I don’t really have any sage words of wisdom for how it got better, except to share with you the fact that it did. It CAN get better for you too. Hang in there, and I agree, you may want to consider counseling.
Post # 14
Did you do pre-marriage counseling? If not, I suggest doing it – even if you’ve already been married. It’s a great way to open up communication.
My Fiance and I have already had 2 sessions and we are really enjoying the whole process.