(Closed) For Better, For Worse

posted 10 years ago in Recaps
Post # 3
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14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Your pics are great =]. I love your hair!!

Counseling. Those issues won’t magically go away. You are young and should get some guidance on how to deal with money and communication and how to deal as you get older, start working, have more money, finish college, etc. A lot of money/communication issues will come up in the next few years; it’d behoove you to sit down with someone and definitely work these out.

Congrats =]

Post # 4
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6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

You need to sit down together an figure out a way that you guys will deal with your issues! You guys are really young so many many more issues are going to come your way!

Post # 5
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1371 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Young or old, money is hard for many couples.  Especially depending on how you were dealing with it pre- and post- wedding.  I agree that counselling is good to get you guys on the same page, especially if you’re also having communication problems.  You need to sit down, talk about the money and find a solution that works for you.

Post # 6
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7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

In addition to counseling, it might be worthwhile to sit down with a financial advisor and hash out the details.  It’s hard to be mad about money when you have a plan that you are sticking to!  We planned with ours how much money to save each month, which accounts bills were coming out of, and what to do with the mortgage and student loan debt.  There’s never any debate because we know just what we’re doing, and how much discretionary money we can spend each month.

We also have a competition to see who can save the most each month (above our already designated savings).  It’s working for us!

Post # 7
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Family Lake House

OMG. I. LOVE. Your. Hair.

 

🙂

 

Good luck, thigs will work out if you talk things through. If they don’t, then I suggest counseling.

Post # 8
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3997 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yeah, good question.  I just put a post up about my money/communication issues with my Fiance, its getting worse today and I’m so fed up.  But he’s defensive and its escalating and right now I wanna punch him in the gut.  PS. that won’t help lol.

I think counseling will be a good tool.  The issues won’t resolve themselves and sometimes an unbiased mediator is necessary to be sure the lines of communication aren’t getting crossed.  Ugh, its tough.  Money is scary because its ruined marriages.

Post # 11
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14181 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

oh that’s so cute! Well, even if you dont have an income, you’re a student, so you’re working on it =]. You still get to help determine the “family” budget. Hopefully he’s not too defensive or too “i’m a man, i don’t need help” about it. I know guys can get like that =]. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Your pictures are amazing & I love your hair!!

I just thought I’d tell you that-I don’t really have any advice 🙁 sorry!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I love your hair as well, so beautiful. As for the problems, yes you have to work on them, but yes there will always be “better” and “worse” times. It’s funny because our six-month engagement period was the most trying time of our ENTIRE relationship. Then once the wedding happened, I feel like so many issues just seemed to disappear. Sorry, I don’t really have any sage words of wisdom for how it got better, except to share with you the fact that it did. It CAN get better for you too. Hang in there, and I agree, you may want to consider counseling.

Post # 14
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418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Did you do pre-marriage counseling? If not, I suggest doing it – even if you’ve already been married. It’s a great way to open up communication.

My Fiance and I have already had 2 sessions and we are really enjoying the whole process.

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