(Closed) For brides living together before marriage , did your relationship changed after

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Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I ve been wondering this too as I can’t imagine it changing anything for us after living together for 3 years at that point.

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Our relationship definitely changed after marriage. Β  Β  We have been together 11 years, lived together for 2 and even so, being married is totally different. We feel so secure now and that we are a team and family unit in the way we didn’t feel before. It makes me so happy to hear him call me his wife. It’s an amazing feeling, one of being 100% settled and as long as I’m beside him, where I’m meant to be.

Congrats on your engagement and best of luck with your wedding πŸ™‚

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Ps we got married 3 weeks ago so it’s still fresh and new for us but I don’t think the feelings will change.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Not at all. We’ve been living together 3 years and got married two weeks ago! We haven’t even registered the marriage at the town office yet becasue our wedding certificate is still on its way! Hahaha. 

We always said we were married anyway so doing the wedding and making it official was just a formality.πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I’ve definitely been wondering the same thing since we also have a child (1 year old) together and have been living together for almost 2 years.  We are getting married in 2 weeks and I’m so excited but I wonder if there will be much difference in how I feel after.  I do think being able to call each other husband and wife and sharing the same last name will make us feel emotionally closer even if logistically nothing changes. 

Post # 7
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Newbee

I have been married before so its kind of hard to explain but you feel this switch happen. You will look over at them and realize that they are now your spouse and the change happens quite instantly. My hope is that I feel it with my second. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Yes. We’ve been together for 6 years and living together for 5 years, we’ve been married for 6 months (6 months today actually πŸ˜†). It does feel different to us, it feels like our relationship is stronger and more stable (I know that getting married isn’t a sign that your relationship won’t deteriorate). It wasn’t an instant thing when we got married, it started when we were engaged although I can’t point to a specific time. For us, marriage never felt like a formality or a piece of paper so I think that might have something to do with it.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I didn’t think that it was going to, but it did for us. I feel like we have a stronger bond now, it feels like we’re moving forward and are actuallly a family now. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I was curious about this too. We’ve been married 2 months and living together 5 years.

It really hasn’t changed anything.

It’s fun ‘officially’ calling him my husband and using his name and stuff but it hasn’t really changed anything on an emotional level for us.  Since we moved in together I have always felt compleltey secure and comfortable in our relationship and marraige hasn’t particularly enhanced that. it was still a fun day though πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We lived together for nine months, were engaged for just over a year and now have been married for two years.

How we feel about each other has got stronger, as it will from previously being in a long distance relationship, but day to day living hasn’t really changed

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Aside from calling each other husband and wife, there wasn’t a change. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’ve been with Fiance for 4.5 years, living together for 2ish and we just bought a house together. Our relationship changed for the better after the proposal, not necessarily on my end, but on his. I noticed a sense of calm in him. and we bought the house about a month ago, and if anything, both of us feel more secure.

Our wedding is June 2017 and I imagine there will be that settled, this is what we’ve been working for, kind of feeling.

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Our relationship didn’t even really change when we moved I together. We both agree that marriage doesn’t feel any different than before. We still love each other just as much, we are still just as committed, it’s just kind of weird calling each other husband and wife (still have to get used to it!).

We were together for 8 years before getting married, so maybe that’s why it doesn’t really feel different.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

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weddingbells2016 :  Hey Bee.

We lived together 1 year prior to our wedding. Nothing changed in all honesty, but for us emotionally it did. We fought so hard to be together, with the opinions of friends against us and when we finally got married it was emotionally the best feeling. Or as other’s may call it the honeymoon phase; I like to disagree. Our relationship bloomed. It was a good feeling. And I’m recently married.

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