(Closed) For co-habitators: Who does more around the house?

posted 10 years ago in Home
  • poll: Who does more around the house?
    I do : (50 votes)
    46 %
    My partner does : (28 votes)
    26 %
    It's pretty equal : (31 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 3
    2472 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I do most of the cooking and cleaning, although he probably wouldn’t agree because he’s in denial.  It’s really annoying.

    He does all the handyman type stuff, though.

    Post # 4
    5920 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I do most everything as well.  I do all of the cooking, cleaning, etc.  He does help with laundry, and grocery shopping though.

    It doesn’t bother me – I like a clean house, and he is impartial.

    Post # 5
    316 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I usually do all of the housework, including the cooking, but the Fiance does almost all of the outdoor stuff like watering and trash and dog duty and pool upkeep so I think it is pretty fair.  Just yesterday he asked me how to work the washing machine, so I guess I am glad I don’t rely on him to clean.

    Post # 6
    1206 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I cook, he cleans up after meals.  I empty the dishwasher, he loads it.  We both spend Saturday morning doing general cleaning around the house.  He does his laundry, I do mine.  He takes care of the fish, I take care of the cat.  We’re pretty equal on cleaning, so it works out. Although, I usually end up cleaning the bathrooms because he doesn’t do it right.

    Post # 7
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m lucky in that he does a lot of the cleaning and we both like to cook. I will clean the kitchen like no one’s business, but he likes to clean too, even the things I hate cleaning – like the bathroom. 🙂 

    We’re fairly even on cooking, too, although I used to pull the majority of it. I still do all the baking – the other night it was, “A… do you have the ingredients for your brownies here?” *Puppy dog face.* 

    Post # 8
    5976 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We usually split things pretty evenly, but lately, he’s been starting dinner for me. He gets home from work about an hour and a half before I do, so it’s such a big help that he does that. I love him to death for it!

    Otherwise, we usually split things evenly! The other day, I did all of the laundry and hung it up (we use drying racks) and he took it all down and folded it yesterday. He dusts…I vacuum. He washes the floors, and I clean the bathrooms. We have a good system going!

    Post # 9
    1232 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    The only “job” my man has it taking out the trash and to rinse his dishes and put them in the sink. He does none of those things , but he’ll clean up the rest of the house sometimes to suprise me with when I get home from work… but the trash will be full and there will be dishes with gunk on them in the sink! Haha! Soo it’s probably about 50/50 he just doesn’t like doing what I ask! Weirdo! Those are like the easiest jobs ever and he does all the hard ones instead?!? Oh well 🙂

    Post # 10
    3282 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    we’re quite equal – I do most of the cooking, laundry and dishes, but he is good about dusting and vaccuming, plus cleaning the bathroom..things I don’t like to do!!

    Post # 11
    683 posts
    Busy bee

    He does the bulk of errands and cleaning and then I’ll do the “deep-clean” that he doesn’t have the eye for- but he’s a keeper for all the work he does! We’ll see if that lasts once he get a job (he’s a full-time student) so I better enjoy it while it lasts.

    Post # 12
    14181 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    He does everything! Because I work and he doesn’t! He’s home all day, so he does a good job of cleaning, vacuuming, dishes, the like.

    Before, I did everything. Now I just bring home the bacon and I am enjoying my little break and trying not to take advantage of it by being too messy. I still do a lot of cooking, mostly on the weekend. Sometimes he’ll grill up chicken or offer to make me a sandwich though. Or breakfast. But I’ll make fancy stew or homemade pizza, stuff that is still around during the week. I’ll make batches of homemade salsa for him to nom on while I’m gone, too.

    We each do our own laundry though. He has his bucket, I have mine, and we have a communal bucket for towels and the like. If he tried to do mine, he wouldn’t know what to hang up, what to dry, and what settings to wash on, like delicate or normal, so I do my own. I do things like turn my jeans inside out when I wash them and stuff like that, too.

    It’s really pretty nice. I’m spoiled by the fact that I no longer have all this cleaning to do. But i have to admit, when it was him working the long hours and me only working part time during the morning, I took care of the apartment when we lived in Savannah. The place was spotless. Made me feel like I was “contributing”.

    Oh and I told him that the more he cleans, the more time WE have to hang out. Otherwise if he sits on his butt and does no cleaning, I have to clean, which means we get LESS hang out time. Priorities, man =]

    Post # 13
    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My Fiance and I keep things pretty even- we switch off cooking every other night (and whoever doesn’t cook does the dishes), we switch off laundry each week, we each clean as neccisary and we do the grocery shopping together. Sometimes we’ll do a little more than our share if the other is super stressed/busy, but for the most part its even. It’s super nice and I’m really happy with the arrangement 🙂

    Post # 14
    535 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I guess it’s equal.  I do the daily up-keep cleaning, weekly cleaning, cooking, etc.  and he does the home improvement projects.  He also does dishes.

    Post # 15
    1051 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    We’ve somewhat fallen into the more gender-specific roles – I do more of the cooking (except on weekends, he’s a big brunch cooker and usually makes breakfast for me on weekend!), and Fiance takes out the trash/fixes things that need fixing.  We both pay for a third party to do the cleaning=)

    Post # 16
    3563 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I do way more of the housework/cooking. I would say 85%. Fiance works much longer hours, at a more stressful job, and makes a lot more money, so I guess it’s fair? He’ll definitely do stuff around the house if I ask him, but I just hate ALWAYS having to ask. And he does it on his timeline, which is a lot slower than it woud take me. So sometimes I just end up doing it myself.

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