(Closed) For co-habitators: Who does more around the house?

posted 10 years ago in Home
  • poll: Who does more around the house?
    I do : (50 votes)
    46 %
    My partner does : (28 votes)
    26 %
    It's pretty equal : (31 votes)
    28 %
  • Post # 17
    Member
    6009 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I think we’re pretty even:  My husband does all of the home improvement stuff (right now he’s remodeling the master bath) and cooks about half the time.  I do most of the daily cleaning and cook about half the time.  Although, I have to say, when I was laid up with morning sickness for about three months, he did everything himself.  ๐Ÿ™‚  I’m pretty lucky. 

    Post # 18
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    3761 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My Fiance is home more than I so he usually does a lot of the work.  When I am home he likes it if I can relax and be with him.

    Post # 19
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    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    It’s pretty equal though I probably do a little more due to cooking most of the time, since he is in grad school with CONSTANT workload and I’m generally done for the day by 4:30 or 5. Also, we’ve decided some things aren’t chores – cooking and building stuff aren’t – they’re hobbies.  We generally split laundry, dishes, trash, etc.  Neither of us make the bed or decorate. The big cleaning-type chores don’t get done at all – I had to hire a housekeeper to come 1-2 times per month because we were living in filth.  My mentality is I’d rather live in filth than do more than 50-60% of the housework and his is OH NO MORE HOMEWORK.  But our housekeeper is awesome and we are no longer gross!  YAY HER.

    Post # 20
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    1108 posts
    Bumble bee

    I do, because I am home all day looking for gainful employment.

    Boyfriend or Best Friend says that he is going to miss when I find a job, as dinner won’t be waiting when he comes home.  

    It’s no problem if I ask him to do something, but since I’m home all day, I may well keep the house clean and such.

    Post # 21
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    6659 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I used to take credit for the majority of the work around the house, but it’s slowly become him who does it now. I had a breakdown shortly after he moved in b/c I had never actually asked him to help with the cleaning, shopping, etc. He immediately started helping me clean and running errands when I assigned them. Now that he’s learned the ‘flow’ of running our household he totally takes the lead on most tasks and actually prefers that only he does certain things like the dishes, laundry, etc.

    Post # 22
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    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I do – right now. FH is finishing up grad school and this is his big last semester where we want to make sure he does good. I’m picking up the slack and I took less classes to help make sure the house runs smoothly – ie we have clean clothes, dishes, hot meals on the table. Our cleaning is lacking from what I would want – but that is probably more than many people do so – but hey, we roll with it.

    This summer he will take on more duties than I will as I start the downward slope of my classes.

    Post # 23
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    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    its hard for us because both of us have demanding jobs – the difference is that while i come home and HAVE to clean things up before i can relax (its my OCD – everything in its place!) he comes home and plops on the couch saying it can wait.

    i foudn though if i give him specific jobs, he knows thats his job so when it piles up i might have to ask him once, but he gets it done – things like the trash and recycling, laundry, etc.

    my standard of clean and HIS standard of clean are very different though. so if i want it cleaned to my standard i always end up going behind him and redoing everything. its so annoying. lol

    Post # 24
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    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Private home

    I cook and do the dishes, but when it comes to cleaning, my husband does more than his fair share.  I just don’t clean often and it relaxes him.  We’re still trying to find a balance for that.

    Post # 25
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    233 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I usually do most of the work and it takes him to tell me about 3 different times to do something…however, I’m currently w/o a job so I think its only fair ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 26
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    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I do most of the domestic chores, but Darling Husband does all the really gross stuff (like take out the trash, clean the litterbox and dog poo, and clean the bathrooms).  Since he does that, I consider it “even” for the sake that I’m just dealing with dishes and laundry and vacuuming and such.  We’re pretty evenly split on taking care of the vehicles, I can handle an oil change.  I had to draw up a schedule of chores though, because he’ll just let the house get to disastrous proportions before he decides it’s too much.  I like to maintain it weekly.  So far my little chore chart has really helped!

    Post # 27
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    792 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I do pretty much everything. My husband works and goes to school full time. I work part time and am kind of ocd about how I like the house anyway…

    Post # 28
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    2777 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    He does a lot but I do all the jobs he hates! ๐Ÿ˜› He loves to cook, I do the cleaning and wash the dishes, he does the laundry, I do the ironing. It’s pretty even – but I type this as he’s cooking! ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 29
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    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We pretty much alternate cooking (by accident – it isn’t something we ever discussed), I do a lot of the day to day indoor cleaning, and he covers the outdoor stuff and the more mechanical cleaning (changing air filters, cleaning the humidifier etc)

    Post # 30
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    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    We tend to be pretty even.  He is very great and does all the things I despise.  He is 100% in charge of laundry and does the lion’s share of dishes (depending on how far into the semester we are.  Towards finals, he’s preoccupied with school).  I like to cook, and end up doing most of the cleaning.

    Post # 31
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    552 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I’m not going to lie… He does most of the work around the house.  95% of all meals are made by him (he is an amazing cook) and since the kitchen is basically his “territory” he does the majority of the kitchen clean up as well. Heavy lifting “man chores” like taking out the trash, etc are usually done by him.  I keep the bathroom cleaned and organized and almost always do the laundry unless I’m not home to switch it and he is. It works out pretty well for us and we have been living together for about 2 years so there shouldn’t be any big surprises after we are married ๐Ÿ™‚

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