(Closed) For couples who are both Christian…are you the same denomination?

posted 7 years ago in Christian
Post # 32
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My boyfriend is a member of the Orthodox Church in America, and I am a member of the United Church of Canada. Needless to say that as Christians we couldn’t be further apart on the spectrum! I moved shortly before I met the BF, and so I didn’t have a church here yet. After we met I started going to church with him, and although I’m still not used to all of the traditions and rituals I really like his church, and I love the head Priest. I’m going to convert to the Orthodox church and we’re going to get married in his church. It’s going to be different than I imagined my wedding would be, Orthodox ceremonies are very different, but I’m happy about it.

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@ FromA2B2013

I’m Catholic my Fiance is Catholic, I feel so so so blessed!!! I love the Lord and love him.

Rergardless of what your denomination is Christ will lead you where he wants to be open to that but Yes FULLY agree you two should talk things through esp. on what churches to attened and how your children will be raised. If there is something that neither are willing to compromise with I’d say its a red flag and means deeper conversation.

No matter what your love for the Lord should be bigger than your love for your Spouse so its good to think these things through.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’ve always been Baptist, he grew up Free Presbyterian but has gone to Baptist churches for a long time and prefers them.

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My husband & I were/are both fairly non-denominational. My family moved quite a bit when I was growing up, & we always either attended a baptist or non-denominational church. My husband’s family has not attended church, but he used to attend a non-denominational church with one of his best friends. When I was a senior in high school, I converted to Mormonism (my grandpa is mormon & so is 3 of my uncles), but I left within a year as many things were starting to be indoctrinated that I did not agree with nor believe, & I felt lied to by the original missionaries that baptised me mormon.

My husband & I now attend an Assembly of God & he really loves it, & I do too, but it’s been an adjustment for me as theservices can be very intense since it is pentecostal. I am trying to work through my shyness so that I can come to enjoy it as much as my husband, because I really do love the pastor & he is really great.

 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m Presbyterian, Fiance is Catholic. We are currently attending an Episcopal church – mostly because we’ve tried all the ones around us and so far, we like it the best. We are only living here for another few years though. We are going to raise our children protestant but are not set on any one denomination, we want to find church famlies that fit “us”.

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ OP Our situation is almost the same as yours – he grew up in an Anglican church (where previous generations attended & married) and I grew up in a Baptist church (also a family church – attended by previous generations; parents met & married there, my sister met her husband & married there etc). So both our churches are deeply entrenched in our family history. While dating (for 7.5 years) we visited each others church, although his parents weren’t happy with him visiting mine. Even though I grew up in a Baptist church, my parents were very open to me visiting or being involved in other churches in order for me to understand we all serve the same God but just worship Him differently. Fiance however had only ever been to his church, mine was the first other church he had ever visited.

After we got engaged we decided that it was important for us to worship together to grow spirtually and decided to look outside both our churches for a new spiritual home for us for when we’re married where we could see ourselves attending and it becoming OUR family’s church. We shared this decision with our parents. My parents were very understanding though obviously sad; but as long as we are serving the Lord together they felt we needed to do what worked for us as a couple. His parents on the other hand TOTALLY.FREAKED.OUT. I was blamed for ‘forcing’ him to leave even after he told them he hasn’t felt that he has grown spiritually there at all and it was HIS decision – and the only reason he stayed at the church was to honor his parents while he still lived under their roof. My relationship with my Future Mother-In-Law has deteriorated over this issue; and I’m at a loss as to what to do. I would’ve thought they would be sad etc, but the fact that he’s still serving God should ultimately be the most important thing (esp. since FI’s older brother no longer calls himself a christian and refuses to go to a church even for funerals).

I’m hoping that with time this will get better; but its just making this time leading up to th wedding that much harder ( esp. since we’re not having a church wedding but getting married in a beautiful garden with both my pastor & his priest officiating)

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